Do you need closure after you stop dating a guy? If you decide to end it with him, do you feel better if you let him know, rather than not returning calls or emails? If he decides to end it, do you want to have a final conversation, not just get an email or him going poof?
It seems more women than men I’ve spoken to want closure. My women friends want to know why or at least have a conversation that allows them to say (or hear), “You are terrific. I just don’t feel we’re a match.”
I have a high need for completion, which is true in every aspect of my life. I like closure. I don’t like things left dangling. However, with dating, some guys just disappear, not returning emails or phone calls. So I make up my own closure. Often I just tell myself, “Oh well. We obviously aren’t a match. Next!” That allows me to let go more easily and move on to the next guy in queue.
If you are like me, rather than obsessing about what went wrong and why he doens’t call, see what you can tell youself to release any feelings of disappointment and resentment and just move on. Some people find it useful to write the guy a letter telling him what you want to say but not sending it.
How can you complete a relationship even if it is just within your own mind?