Are you easily beguiled? Do you wear your heart on your sleeve? Are you prone to become prematurely smitten?
Or are you more cautious, perhaps bordering on detached, especially early on in dating someone? You keep your heart sheltered for as long as possible? Then you either succumb to being moonstruck or lose interest as there’s no heart connection?
I work to strike a balance knowing that most people are on their best behavior in the first few dates so I like to be a balance of engaged and detached. But once in a great while I’ll meet a guy who I go over the moon for quickly. Wham! He seems like the real deal. But so far, those have rarely lasted a month. The love-comet burns out quickly.
A month of dating seems to be a watershed for me. If we can both be infatuated after seeing each other a month, it says a lot. “A month?” you may be saying. “That’s no time at all.”
You’d be right. You have barely scratched the surface, no matter how many dates, calls, and IMs you’ve had. No matter how many marathon dates you’ve been on, and how much sharing you have done.
It’s been a month since I began seeing King Charming. So far, he has not slackened his pace in sending daily multiple romantic texts, calling regularly, and generally being someone I’m drawn to. Is he perfect? No, but if his imperfection gets in the way of our connecting, I let him know how I feel. So far he seems perfect for me. I know I have glaring imperfections, but he’s not mentioned any to me. Perhaps he has more grace than me!
When I think of the many qualities I adore about him, I see that he personifies many of the characteristics I’ve longed for in a man. I admit that I’ve been treated well by a few men in the past, but I never grew to love them as they did me. I realize that sounds arrogant and egotistical, so forgive me. But the contrast of the past — either of my being smitten or the guy being beguiled — is that this time it appears we are mutually infatuated.
The question remains, can this intensity last beyond the next month or so? I’d like to think it can. I know our irritants will surface and it will tell a lot how we chose to deal with them.
What are the signs you’ve noticed that told you that besottedness will continue beyond the initial flush of adoration?