Dating after 40

When a man says, “Let’s get together Saturday night,” do you take that as a possibility or a promise? I take it as a promise. If he says, “Let’s do lunch sometime,” as many acquaintances do, I view that as a possibility — a remote one, more of a nicety than necessity. No fixed date…

You are probably thinking, “Who needs proof that men lose their ability to think when they are aroused?” We know this anecdotally, and men will agree, so we’re not man bashing. But in his book Predictably Irrational author Dan Ariely cites a study he conducted that gives us empirical evidence.

Sometimes we get lessons on dating — and life — from unusual sources. The sand painter arrived early for the demonstration at the Arizona resort. He looked different than I expected — I made the stereotypical assumption that the demo would be by a Native American. He was not.

People often ask why I continue to communicate with new men after I’ve met one for coffee, or even accepted a second date. Why, they ask, don’t I just stop communicating with others and stay focused on one at a time? Dating is, to some degree, a numbers game.

I know — usually it’s three strikes before someone is out. But in dating sometimes all you need are two interactions with a man to decide he’s out.

In dating relationships, it’s easy to ignore your guy’s disrespectful behaviors or indicators that he isn’t for you. You justify it by saying that you like many things about him so you’re willing to overlook some less-than-perfect behaviors. But you’re just being an ostrich burying your head in the sand of romance.

Salacious. Risqué. Erotic. Nekked. You didn’t request them. He didn’t ask if you wanted them. He just sent them. Of him — or various parts of him.

I dated a man for 6 months who was going through financial difficulty. When I asked why we didn’t see each other more than once every 10 days or so, he said he didn’t want to see me without being able to take me out. I explained that I was more interested in getting to…

Dearest Readers: I need your assistance. In the next 30 days I plan on launching the first of my 13(!) books on advice for midlife dating women based on my blog postings. But I need a little help from my friends and readers. Here’s what I need: A larger readership. If you have friends who…

Many midlife woman have bodies with a bit more to love than they did in their twenties. Some are self-conscious about their less-than-model-like shapes. I have been.