Dating can take an emotional toll. You get your hopes up when it seems someone is a great match. Even when you try to manage them, expectations creep in. You start having hopes, perhaps fantasizing about a future together. Then something happens that dashes it all. A deal breaker emerges. A total impasse. Something one…
Dating after 40
“There must be a pony in here”
“Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill People who know my dating philosophy and/or read this blog sometimes ask how I can stay so upbeat in the face of so many encounters that haven’t panned out. I admit that while to some it can sound exciting to have gone…
Love me tender
In Elvis‘ song, he says, “Love me tender, love me sweet, never let me go.” Doesn’t that say a lot? Love me tenderly and sweetly. And when you do, I don’t want you ever to let me go. I want that tenderness and sweetness to last forever. The dictionary defines tender as “showing gentleness and…
“I want to court you”
These words are heart melting to a woman who wants love, romance, and a long-term relationship. No other man had said these to me. They were voiced after two weeks of nightly talking for hours about things that were important to each of us. What broke up past relationships, what was important to each of…
Your Date-A-Base — tracking multiple suitors
When people hear that I’ve dated 71 men in 2 years and that I often date several guys simultaneously, they commonly ask, “How do you keep them straight?” I respond, “With a Date-A-Base.” Since I’m a business woman, I’ve long kept a database to track my customers. In business it is also known as a…
The deliciousness of pillow talk
There’s something delicious about late-night calls with your sweetheart. They are even more yummy than a mint on your pillow, and I love chocolate! When snuggled in bed talking on the phone the conversation seems to get deeper, more tender, and of course, sometimes provocative! This virtual tucking in can bring you closer as long…
Do you have time to wait to open your heart?
A friend of mine died this week. I don’t know if I’ll ever become accustomed to people dying, especially when someone succumbs unexpectedly, as he did. When someone passes it prompts us to reflect on what’s important. Loved ones always appear at the top of that list. We become more appreciative of the gifts around…
Dating as therapy
Dating books say that dating shouldn’t be used as therapy. In other words, you shouldn’t use your guy to be your sounding board and work through issues as you would with a therapist. In fact, even if he is a therapist — especially if he is a therapist — you shouldn’t expect him to act…
Are you a happy dater?
The other day one of my dearest friends Ellie, asked me how I managed to stay so happy. It’s true that generally I’m a perpetually perky person, but I do have my bouts with unhappiness when faced with setbacks and disappointments. I’ve worked hard to reduce the time I spend in a dreary mood when…
Dating sex questions from a midlife dating freshman to a senior
My neighbor is just starting dating after a 30-year absence. Two weeks ago she joined a service that matches her and men with comparable intellect, education, income and personality. She’s had dates with three men. She had questions for me — many questions! Frosh: “You have been dating a lot longer than I have. I’m…
Getting to know a man through his humor
A recent press release announced a new dating site, Funny Passions, for “singles with a sense of humor.” This strikes me as odd. I’ve never met anyone who thought him/herself humorless. Nearly everyone thinks they have a sense of humor, even if it’s obscure. Why is this site different? The release says “an entire site…