Sometimes when a man wants to get closer physically, he’ll offer you a shoulder or back massage, or he’ll just start kneading your shoulders. If you respond positively, he’ll continue. Watch out for this ploy. This happens so often, I’d swear it is taught in a “how to seduce women” class. So catch on quickly….
Dating after 40
Walking over hot coals
When we say or hear, “I’d walk over hot coals to…” it shows unwavering commitment. Most of us would love it if a man said he’d walk over hot coals for our kiss! Well, I’ve walked over a bed of hot coals — but it wasn’t for a man. It was for me. I wasn’t…
Dating with integrity
My friend Bruce shared how he’s experienced that women he’s beginning to date lie. We agreed that telling the truth, while uncomfortable at times, is really easier in the long term. Not only are you being respectful of the other person, but you date with integrity. But what about white lies — little untruths that…
What’s your need for closure?
Do you need closure after you stop dating a guy? If you decide to end it with him, do you feel better if you let him know, rather than not returning calls or emails? If he decides to end it, do you want to have a final conversation, not just get an email or him…
Snowed in
This weekend I’m at a 3-day meeting with my all-women mastermind group. Yesterday the airport closed so we are snowed in. Luckily, we all really like each other or the prospect of being cooped up with four other women might seem unpleasant. But after being with these women for a little more than a day,…
Building your rejection muscle
One of the reasons people are hesitant to date is because of the potential for rejection. I would say you not only have the potential to be rejected — it is a certainty. Let’s look at this word “rejection.” The dictionary says, “dismiss as inadequate, inappropriate, or not to one’s taste.” No one likes to…
“What size bed do you prefer?”
This is a favorite question to ask a guy I’ve been flirting with for a bit. Depending on the chemistry, it is not a first-conversation question, and perhaps not even a first-date question. But if he is fun and flirty, then I’ll ask. It tells me a lot about him. Whatever he answers I ask,…
Persistence pays — perhaps
When I first began to date, two men contacted me the same week from the only online site I was listed. Each emailed me several times a day the first week, and we spoke by phone. I liked them both, but Mr. JohnnyOnTheSpot asked for a date within the week. The other lived an hour…
“When can I meet your kids?”
I have never asked a guy this. However, a woman recently shared that she asks this on the first date. Additionally she asks, “When would you be comfortable meeting mine, and each others’ friends?” Even though I don’t have kids, I know how protective most people are of theirs and introducing them to people they’re…
Are you a power dater? Would you be upset with one?
Another Internet dater shared that a guy she’d met online called and set a coffee date at 1:00 the following Monday. A little later, he called her again, apparently thinking she was a different woman, and set a 3:00 coffee date for the same day. She was incensed. She told him off and canceled both…
Do you tell suitors how to make you happy?
My friend Bruce says most women don’t know how to express how a man can make her happy. Women commonly say they want nebulous characteristics, like successful, strong, communicative, fun. A woman’s profile often says she wants a long list of nearly impossible attributes. A man begins to read the superman-like list and moves on…