This was a favorite saying from my mother. Ironically, she was one of the most prudish women I’ve ever known, so she wasn’t talking about flaunting your physical attributes. However, we are going explore when to do that. You, no doubt, know what of your physical characteristics men find most appealing. You have to decide…
Dating after 40
What you perceive is what you receive
I’ve adapted a folk tale to dating. It goes like this: On the outskirts of town, an older woman was gardening next to the road when a stranger pulls up and leans out her window. “Hello there. I’m headed to your town to see if it would be a good place to resettle. I’m single…
Does your date nourish your mind?
In a recent article, my friend professional speaker extraordinaire Mark Sanborn wrote about relationships. He said, “Some of my best relationships … challenge me intellectually and spiritually. Scott Peck believed that love was about the commitment to another’s growth, and that makes sense to me.” I agree! I find potential suitors’ conversations uninteresting that mostly…
Emotional unavailability
Many of the women I’ve talked to say they’ve dated men who were emotionally unavailable. I realized I’m not sure how to tell if a guy is emotionally available or not. So I did a little research. An article at Neil Rosenthal’s Heart Relationships site listed a number of ways to tell if someone is…
Disposable dating
We live in a disposable society, where instead of fixing something, it is often easier and cheaper to throw it out and get a new one. Sometimes it appears this applies to dating as well. With Internet dating, there seems to be a steady supply of potential suitors. Even if you don’t get contacted frequently,…
Teed off by weekend getaway with golf addict
In “Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations,” I told you of a weekend “romantic” getaway with a man I’d seen occasionally over seven months. A week before the outing, he sprang on me that he planned to golf Saturday. I was not pleased, but was willing to be a good sport, under the…
When lost baggage is a good thing
We all carry some baggage — as in emotional baggage — when we date and enter new relationships. We all schlep some from past hurts with lovers, parents or others who were influential. Sometimes we haul hurts inflicted by strangers. I’m a little wary when a potential suitor says he has no emotional baggage. Unless…
Questions I wish I’d known to ask
I wish it weren’t so, but I’ve found that there are some questions I would have never thought to ask, that in retrospect, I would have been better off asking. I’m not sure I’d have the guts to really ask them, as who would have ever thought it would be necessary? But I’ve found that…
What was he thinking?
Today I received emails from two guys from different dating sites. Reading them, I couldn’t help but wonder, “What was he thinking? That this would be appealing to me?” See what you think. YourSlave wrote (this is how he sent it): I KISS YOUR PERFECT PALE WHITEST FEET DEAR GODDESS I WILL ACTUALLY BE IN…
Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations
I told an out-of-town guy I’d been seeing occasionally for 7 months that I was coming to his area for business. He said, “Why don’t you stay for the weekend and we can go away somewhere?” That sounded good to me. Since although we talked daily, we hadn’t seen each other in 3 months, I…
Giving, receiving and self-esteem
My friend Randy Gage has a new book, Why You’re DUMB, SICK, and BROKE … and How to Get SMART, HEALTHY, and RICH! While it is an interesting, well-written, thought-provoking text on how to live a more prosperous life, this passage on love stood out for me. Love is an expression of your self-esteem, and…