A date and I met some gal pals and their hubbies at a zydeco dance club. If you’re unfamiliar with this term, the music originated in southern Louisiana. Like most dances, there is a basic step, then embellishments as you get more comfortable. None of us knew the steps so we arrived early for the…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
Dating’s “pre-game” activities
Have you been inundated with the Super Bowl pre-game activity options? You could easily devote the whole weekend to Super Bowl shows if you wanted. In scanning the various proceeding, it reminded me of a conversation I had recently with a single gal pal. We were talking about how important first impressions are in dating….
Are you enjoying the banquet of dating?
My friend, world class photojournalist, author, former National Geographic photographer and Academy Award-nominated director, Dewitt Jones is also an entrancing speaker. His presentations are illustrated with his riveting photos as he makes his points on creativity, leadership, vision and passion. In a presentation I heard over 15 years ago, one of his phrases still reverberates:…
The dangers of idealization
On a third date, a guy and I were sharing how well we both felt we got along and how well matched we seemed to be. He surprised me when he said, “Don’t idealize me.” I hadn’t been. I was clear on his imperfections, yet was enjoying the parts that I liked. It can be…
“What’s in your wallet?”
While this has become an advertising slogan for a credit card company, I hope you don’t say it to a man you’re dating. Just as most women protectively guard the contents of their purses from inquisitive eyes, men protect the contents of their wallets. So imagine my surprise when a CEO I was coaching asked…
Facing fear in dating
Recently, I had a coffee date to meet a new guy. I noticed myself feeling a bit nervous beforehand, something I hadn’t felt in a while. I wondered if he would be nice or would he ditch me within a few minutes. Would there be that wonderful spark I’ve felt on a few first meetings,…
Sharing your sexual owner’s manual with him
Have you ever driven a car that seems very foreign to you? I remember driving a friend’s Italian sports car that had five gears when I was used to four. The dashboard had a unfamiliar layout. And everything was labeled in Italian! Or maybe you’re a Mac gal and every once in a great while…
When your guy vexes you, ask what your highest self would do
When the guy you’re dating does something that really torques your jaw, something you consider incredibly rude, self-centered, or insensitive, it’s easy to get in his face about it. But if most of the time he’s a thoughtful, polite, sharing, caring, conscious guy, this inconsiderate behavior is an anomaly. So how do you approach the…
Flirting with fame — and a radio interviewer
Thursday I was interviewed by Steve L., a reporter from ClearChannel’s KEX radio station in Portland. Not only did Steve prove to be a great interviewer, but a fun flirt too! We were talking about managing expectations with Valentine’s Day coming up. Here’s basically what we said, although I didn’t record it, so it’s to…
No bull — Welsh dairy farmers herding up dates
Single Welsh dairy farmers looking for love are putting personal ads on their milk cartons! How udderly creative! This comes as they celebrate St. Dwynwen’s Day (Jan. 25), The Welsh patron saint of lovers. They’re milking this for all it’s worth! One of the girlfriendless farmers, Iwan Jones, said, “The Welsh countryside is a great…
Can Google help — or hinder — your dating life?
Perhaps you’re like me and immediately Google a guy as soon as you have his first and last name. While I’ve never found any incriminating evidence this way, I have found some interesting items about the guy I’m considering meeting. I imagine myself a CSI (one of my favorite shows), linking disparate clues to complete…