Sometimes a guy says something that stings but it shifts your perspective so it ends up for the better. We’d been seeing each other a few weeks. I enjoyed his company. Smart, funny and affectionate, he made me laugh like no one else. I thought it was going well. Then, over cocktails, he told me…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
Cell phone can disconnect a date
I’m dismayed that I even have to write this post. After all, I date midlife (37-64 year-old), successful, educated men. You would think they’d have enough common sense and common courtesy to know what to do — and not do — with their cell phones on a date. But some apparently don’t, as I’ve been…
“POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd” makes you outstanding in the dating scene
My friend, bestselling author Sam Horn, has a new book out, POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd. At first glance, you’d think POP! is strictly a business book and says nothing of value for daters. However, that’s not the case. There’s a lot in the book you can apply to dating. Over brunch a few…
Clues a guy is just looking for a booty call
I have a new friend, the writer of “Male Call,” a syndicated newspaper columnist on “Advice From a Guy.” I asked him a question I thought might interest you. We had this exchange: DG: What are signs a guy is just looking for a booty call on the first date? MC: Wait a sec —…
Yummy is as yummy does
When my friends ask if a particular man I’m seeing is handsome, I commonly respond, “If I saw him from across the room, I wouldn’t say ‘Who’s that yummy guy?’ But the more I’m with him, the yummier he gets.” Men seem to become cuter as their personalities emerge. A man who isn’t George Clooney…
Treasure found
One of the joys I’ve experienced with online dating is discovering amazing men. I wrote about this in “Dating as networking.” A year ago, I received a well-written email from an intelligent, engaging, articulate, educated, feisty, 64-year-old man. He was older than I prefer, lives 3000 miles away, and had no picture posted. However, his…
A man to go with my wardrobe
Our lifestyle is often reflected by the clothing we’re most comfortable in, which often represents the activities we enjoy. Most of us have a range of clothing from sweats to business attire to formal apparel. We know how important first impressions are. While successful people would never show up for a job interview inappropriately dressed,…
Multi-dating pros and cons
When I’ve shared with single, dating guy pals that I’m multi-dating they say that there is a double standard. If a guy talked about having dates with multiple women, he’d be chastised and accused of being a player. Isn’t the reason for dating to find out who you click with and who you don’t? Sometimes…
Men are like shoes
Soon after I began dating, I was hunting for date shoes in my favorite shoe store, DSW (Discount Shoe Warehouse). It is a cavernous store carrying thousands of varieties. One shoe per style and color sits atop a column of that style’s variously sized boxed shoes. As I slowly cruised each long aisle scrutinizing each…
Fantasizing while Jazzercizing
I Jazzercise twice a week. A few months ago the class began in the church right next door to me. As a lackadaisical exerciser, I figured this was God’s way of saying “You now have no viable excuse not to exercise.” Even with a morning yoga class a block away, I nearly always turn over…
Why men go “poof”
Vanish. Disappear. Do a David Copperfield. I’ve pondered this a lot, as it’s happened often. I’ve interviewed men friends. The following is what I’ve gleaned. If you don’t hear from a guy after one date, it’s clear he’s not interested. No problem, even though it’s classier to send a nice email stating such. But what…