He’s pleasant and cordial. However, there are red flags that make you cautious. Some by themselves are deal breakers (he drinks too much), while others have the cumulative effect of “I’m going to pass on this guy.” For each woman the red flags she notices will be different. Here are some of mine: He talks…
Moving on graciously
Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date
He’s pleasant and cordial, not a jerk. But there are signs that there won’t be a second date. You’d agreed to meet for a drink. The waiter brings your drinks, but when he asks if you are ready to order, your date says, “We’re just having drinks.” If he were interested in spending more time…
50 ways to leave your lover? 4 ways NOT to leave your suitor
If you know it isn’t a good match, you owe it to him to tell him and then either move on or become friends. But do so graciously, respectfully and gracefully, no matter what. Here are four ways NOT to let him know. Via email — if you’ve dated him more than a few times,…
Hello — goodbye: How to say no thanks after meeting
One of the hardest parts of dating is telling your date that it isn’t a match so you don’t encourage him to pursue you. It is easiest to do in an email, but I only recommend this method if you’ve only met once. Start with thanking him for coffee, lunch, whatever. Comment on some of…
Deciding to see him again or not
Even when there isn’t the immediate physical attraction or chemistry, I’ll sometimes see a guy again to see if there is any underlying spark that needs a second chance to be kindled. If there was nothing odious on the first date, I may try once more. Last night is a good example. The gentleman arrived…
How to say “thanks but no thanks” to online winks, flirts and teases
When someone is not a member of a dating site — or they are lazy — they float a trial balloon by clicking on “Wink” (depending on the site, these are also called flirts or teases). I am convinced some men do a rudimentary search by criteria such as “breathing” and “lives on the planet…