You’ve been seeing someone casually, once a week for a month. You like him, he seems to like you as he keeps asking you to lunch, and ending each encounter with a passionate kiss. He calls you a few times a week and engages in an IM chat at least once a day. You’re not…
Assessing your assets
“How many sexual partners have you had?”
This is a deadly question to ask someone you’re dating. Whatever he says will be wrong. If he’s had fewer than you think is appropriate, you’ll think he’s inexperienced. If he’s had more — perhaps way more — than you think is acceptable, you’ll think he’s a slut. And what if he asks you? Same…
Getting a man to fall for you
My friend Jeff Mac addressed an interesting question from one of his Manslations.com readers. She asked for the trick to getting a man to fall hopelessly and helplessly in love with you. Jeff had some good advice. And since I’m always willing to horn in on my fellow blogger’s questions, my answer is to paraphrase…
What’s in a name?
Lately, I’ve been contacted by a number of men with formal names: Patrick not Pat, Charles not Charlie or Chuck, Richard not Dick or Rick or Rich. I’ve also noticed that people who use the formal version of their name are different than those who offer the informal version. Since I use the formal version…
Are you drawn to deep-voiced men?
Another useless study was recently released that announced, “Women favor men with deep voices.” Robin Thicke and Michael Jackson, sorry! It’s well known that many women are attracted to men with deep, Barry White-like voices. Part of my ex’s allure was his resonant, radio-announcer voice (he had a radio show for a few years). Another…
Can too much spoiling be bad?
A man contacted me whose online name is the equivalent of Wuss4U. I laughed, as I thought it must be a joke. I read his profile: “I seek an aggressive woman who wants to take charge and call the shots. I am meek and mild, shy. I need a strong, forceful woman to dominate me….
Give yourself more dating happiness
My friends at LifeTwo.com asked me to participate as one of five columnists in exercises for their “Happiness Week.” I’ve written about happiness in dating a few times: Do you know what will make you happy? Are you a happy dater? Let’s take a look at how we can meld things that make us happy…
What’s your need for affiliation?
A friend shared with me the concept of people having different needs for affiliation — how much “people contact” they need. As you would guess, some have a very low need for affiliation — someone like the Unabomber who is content to live like a hermit with human contact only a few times a year,…
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Otis Redding wrote it. Aretha Franklin belted it. The song says all the writer/singer wants is respect from his/her partner. Just a little respect. Have you ever felt someone you were dating for a while didn’t respect you? Maybe he chastised you, second guessed you or told you your actions or decisions were wrong? Or…
The flirt-talk continuum
I’ve noticed that flirt-talk typically starts out innocently — you share things you like about the other, compliment him/her, tell him/her you think s/he’s cute, sexy or a catch, comment that you’re looking forward to talking/seeing him/her again. In person this is coupled with smiles, laughter, perhaps light touches and other body language to show…
Are you “skin hungry”?
A friend used this term to describe when someone longs for touch. She said it means someone hasn’t been touched in a while, or perhaps as much as they like. Maybe their friends or family aren’t the touching type. They crave human contact — literally. But especially opposite-sex contact, even if it’s just holding hands…