Otis Redding wrote it.
Aretha Franklin belted it.
The song says all the writer/singer wants is respect from his/her partner. Just a little respect.
Have you ever felt someone you were dating for a while didn’t respect you? Maybe he chastised you, second guessed you or told you your actions or decisions were wrong?
Or have you noticed your own lack of respect in the man? He acted in ways you thought were juvenile, or made decisions you felt weren’t thought through? You may have kept these observations to yourself or you may have said something. Even if you thought you were keeping it to yourself, I can guarantee the disrespect seeped out.
You may be saying, “Respect is a deal breaker. Why bother even mentioning it?”
Because some of us were raised in environments with little respect. Disrespect was the norm. So if we give or receive disrespect, we think that is how relationships are supposed to be.
I’ve been on both sides. I’m not proud to admit I haven’t always hidden it if someone I’ve been dating for a while does something I think is immature. Of course, the outcome is predictably bad. It can — and usually does — cause a chasm in the relationship.
Respect is critical for a healthy relationship to work. Not that we don’t all periodically do things that are not fully thought through, or naive or even, in retrospect, foolish. But to have this pointed out by the person we’re wanting most to impress is not a good thing. Not at all. When we discover our folly, there is usually enough self-flagellation that no one else needs to remind us of our stupidity.
And if we don’t think what we said/did/decided is dumb, we really don’t want to hear that the other thought it was. We feel disrespected. Which no one wants to feel.
If you can talk about this feeling of disrespect calmly and rationally with your guy, great. It is hard to do without one or both of you getting defensive. The person showing disrespect feels justified, and the person who said/did what caused the reaction feels justified.
But it is important to note when you have feelings of being disrespected by the man you’re seeing, as well as when you feel he’s made a dumb decision. The more frequently either of these occur, the more the bells should be going off in your head — and not the sweet chime of a dainty dinner bell. These are fire station alarms clanging warning you to wake up and get out of the building (AKA relationship)!
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