In “Dirty Dancing,” we are seduced by Patrick Swayze’s dance moves. He is so smooth, so sexy, so hot. We long for a man who moves like that, who is so sure of himself and knows how to move with us in perfect union. But was he as good in intimate situations as he was in public?
As we left the dance floor, a date stated that he could tell what kind of lover a woman was by how she danced. I was surprised at the comment, as I’d never heard it before. So I began comparing the dancing style of my former lovers.
However, I haven’t danced with many of my sweeties, and I haven’t made love with many dance partners. So that narrowed down the field for analysis. What could I tell about those who I’d experienced in both situations? Was my date right? Could I tell what kind of lover a man would be by how he danced?
There were some correlations. These are the characteristics that were discernible in both environments:
- Confidence (or shyness)
- Fun and laughter (or seriousness)
- Tenderness (or roughness)
- Sensitivity to partner’s mood and needs (or insensitivity)
- Uninhibitedness (or reservedness)
- Generosity (or self-focused)
- Initiative (or lack thereof)
- Comfortable in his body, unembarrassed with how he moves, likes how movement feels (or self-conscious)
- Controlling (or allowing for ebb and flow between partners)
However, I’m sure there are many exceptions. Someone could be an excellent ballroom dancer, for example, and be too formulaic in bed. Or maybe someone is a great lover, but has two left feet on the dance floor. Some people perform better with an audience and some worse.
What’s your experience? Have you had great lovers who were also great dancers? Or was one experience much better than the other?
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3 responses to “Does dancing skill equal lovemaking prowess?”
Yes DG, I once had a guy who told me that you can tell how good a guy is in bed by how he dances. Well, this guy prided himself on both, he was so full of himself. I really did enjoy dancing with him but I can’t say he was exceptional in bed. He certainly wasn’t sensitive to other’s feelings. When we were out dancing he felt he had to dance with the other women there that didn’t have a partner. Trouble is, he also danced with some women that DID have a partner! There was only one man that I dated that was good at both and I was very much in love with him. Unfortunately he had to leave the state to settle some things with his ex-wife. I still think one might be better off with a good dancer, but there are so many factors in the equation.
Hi DG,
Interesting post. I have met many, many men over the years who were/are excellent dancers. Unfortunately, I have yet to meet one man, dancer or non-dancer, who was/is any good in bed. Sad…
Best wishes from bookyone 🙂
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