As I respond to an interesting potential suitor’s email today, I hear myself saying the command heard at the start of the Olympics. I’m don’t like to think of dating as a game — although there are gamelike parts. I work hard to not play games in dating, even though there are plenty of those…
Tag: Dating after 40
Is it neediness, loneliness, or pent up love?
I’ve noticed some men start with sugary sweet talk even before a face-to-face meeting. Some of them try to soften me up, thinking I’ll then be an easy mark on the first date for a roll in the hay. But others don’t hint at sex, and say sweet, romantic things in email or on the…
The dangers of IM flirting
I’m told some people found the love of their life through an online dating chat room. Others have shared they got to know they beloved long distance through IMs. While IMs can be a way to get to know each other quickly, it can also create a false intimacy. I rarely open my IM application…
“All I seem to attract are players”
I discreetly turned to see who made this statement and saw an average-looking, middleaged woman at the table behind me at Starbucks talking to a gal pal about dating. She was wearing a low-cut camisole emphasizing 3 inches of cleavage and black bra straps showing underneath the spaghetti straps. I made a snap assessment linking…
Guys: Need your help translating
Gentleman readers: On behalf of my women readers, I want to offer my last date as a case study. I need your help translating this message. Yesterday’s posting talked about that date, which by my assessment went well. Not the best first date, but good. Here’s Mr. New Guy’s response to my thank-you email: Last…
Flower power
If you’ve read Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 for long, you will know I am an incurable romantic. In fact, my YahooPersonals “love profile” assessment labeled me as “Romantic,” which it describes as: You want and expect it all —- a lasting connection with someone on every level —- mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual….
Do you both have the same dating rhythm?
I had an epiphany today. It began with my being flummoxed that I hadn’t heard from Dreamboat after our dinner date Wed. where we decided we wanted to see each other again. We’d emailed a brief “had a great time with you” the next day and that was the last I’ve heard from him. Perhaps…
How do you know he’s interested in you?
According to my blog reports, this is a phrase many people search when finding this blog. I only wish I had the answer. It is much easier to identify how he shows he’s not interested, as I detailed in “Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date.” But knowing he is interested? That’s…
Is your sense of humor stunting your dating?
In many online profiles, both genders say they want a mate who possess a good sense of humor. But what really does that mean? For many, it means the man makes a funny (or almost funny) comment and the woman laughs. But what if the woman is the funny (or funnier) one? If you are…
Do his fingers hold clues to his behavior?
Hold your hands in front of you. Notice if your ring finger is longer than your index (pointing) finger. Are they the same size? If so, or if your ring finger is shorter, you’re a typical woman. If the ring finger is longer, you’re atypical. Ask your next date to do this test. The size…
My dating site “friends”
“He looks so familiar,” I think, looking at the man in front of me at the coffee counter. “How might I know him?” My internal search engine Googled my mind looking for a reference to him from one of my social circles. Nothing snapped into place. Until… “Match.com,” I silently exclaimed. “This guy winked at…