“What’s that?” you ask. The term is commonly used to denote a loose or crass woman. However, because I have a dear friend who uses this as an enduring term for me, I like to think of it differently. My definition is a woman who is secure in her sexuality, comfortable flirting and playing. She…
Tag: dating after 50
Sleepover do’s and don’ts
“Sleepover? For adults?” you may be asking. “What do you mean?” Two-person pajama party. Duo slumber party. Couple cuddle fest. Jammie jam. No-sex sleepover. It can happen early in the relationship. You’re not ready to have sex, so you only cuddle and snooze with your new sweetie all night. Sleepovers are living on the edge….
I’m glad dating is hard
I bet you’re thinking, “That’s an odd approach.” At first blush, it sounds incongruent. But let me explain. My dear friend, the late Art Berg, was one of the best motivational speakers in the world until his death at age 39 in 2002. He wrote several books, was named 1992 Young Entrepreneur of the Year…
Being present to the presents
My nearly divorced 48-year-old neighbor said she was inspired by my philosophy expressed in this blog. She asked how I could still be positive and upbeat after going out with 68 men, none of whom was “the one.” I told her my philosophy is “never a wasted evening.” In my dating journey, I’ve met some…
A face perfect for radio
I’m sure you’ve heard that old insult. Well, after seeing myself on the Greg Behrendt Show the other day, I feel I have a face perfect for radio. Or newspaper. Perhaps telegraph. Just not TV. Before the show Hollywood makeup and hair artists worked their magic on me. Still the sags and bags were pronounced….
Knight and day
How many women have said they want a “knight in shining armor”? Well, I found one. Literally. His after-work life involves teaching historical swordplay and leather craft. He often gives dueling demonstrations at Renaissance faires. He introduced himself by email the other day. (I wonder if it’s hard to type while wearing metal gloves. Maybe…
Sharing your dating disclaimer
My friend George, a long-time dater and avowed bachelor until he met his soulmate 18 months ago, had a printed dating disclaimer. He says he made women read it before he slept with them. He says, “I know it’s bizarre, but I wanted them to know what they were in for.” What was in his…
Yummy is as yummy does
When my friends ask if a particular man I’m seeing is handsome, I commonly respond, “If I saw him from across the room, I wouldn’t say ‘Who’s that yummy guy?’ But the more I’m with him, the yummier he gets.” Men seem to become cuter as their personalities emerge. A man who isn’t George Clooney…
Treasure found
One of the joys I’ve experienced with online dating is discovering amazing men. I wrote about this in “Dating as networking.” A year ago, I received a well-written email from an intelligent, engaging, articulate, educated, feisty, 64-year-old man. He was older than I prefer, lives 3000 miles away, and had no picture posted. However, his…
Multi-dating pros and cons
When I’ve shared with single, dating guy pals that I’m multi-dating they say that there is a double standard. If a guy talked about having dates with multiple women, he’d be chastised and accused of being a player. Isn’t the reason for dating to find out who you click with and who you don’t? Sometimes…
Why men go “poof”
Vanish. Disappear. Do a David Copperfield. I’ve pondered this a lot, as it’s happened often. I’ve interviewed men friends. The following is what I’ve gleaned. If you don’t hear from a guy after one date, it’s clear he’s not interested. No problem, even though it’s classier to send a nice email stating such. But what…