Review of Keys to the Kingdom by Alison Armstrong Ms. Armstrong began her study of what makes men tick in 1991 and her staff gives “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” workshops around the country. Her focus is on creating peace and partnership between men and women. She shares some of her findings in her novel, Keys…
Tag: dating after forty
The flirt-talk continuum
I’ve noticed that flirt-talk typically starts out innocently — you share things you like about the other, compliment him/her, tell him/her you think s/he’s cute, sexy or a catch, comment that you’re looking forward to talking/seeing him/her again. In person this is coupled with smiles, laughter, perhaps light touches and other body language to show…
Lessons from a bad date
Once in a while, when you spin the dating wheel, it stops on “Bad Date.” Of course you don’t know this going into the date. And luckily, my experience is it only happens about 10% of the time. But tonight I landed smack dab in the middle of that slot. Since it doesn’t happen often,…
Why too-soon midlife sex is like non-fat food
A guy I started seeing a week ago and I were discussing the lessons we’ve learned about jumping in the sack too soon. I shared what I reported in “What women need from a man before having sex” — that women need to have an emotional connection to make the physical part satisfying. He asked…
Are you “skin hungry”?
A friend used this term to describe when someone longs for touch. She said it means someone hasn’t been touched in a while, or perhaps as much as they like. Maybe their friends or family aren’t the touching type. They crave human contact — literally. But especially opposite-sex contact, even if it’s just holding hands…
My phone’s not ringing. Is that you not calling?
My pal Manslations blog writer Jeff Mac wrote about how to get a man you’re seeing to call you instead of just texting, IMing and emailing. He had some good wisdom about how we often think the other has the same preferences as us, so we don’t think of doing anything differently. Jeff wisely suggests…
Kisses do tell
Women place more emphasis on the first kiss than men do. We use it as part of determining if we want to see the man again or not. University at Albany researchers Susan M. Hughes, Marissa A. Harrison, and Gordon G. Gallup, Jr. recently published their findings on kissing in an Evolutionary Psychology article. This…
Let the games begin
As I respond to an interesting potential suitor’s email today, I hear myself saying the command heard at the start of the Olympics. I’m don’t like to think of dating as a game — although there are gamelike parts. I work hard to not play games in dating, even though there are plenty of those…
Is it neediness, loneliness, or pent up love?
I’ve noticed some men start with sugary sweet talk even before a face-to-face meeting. Some of them try to soften me up, thinking I’ll then be an easy mark on the first date for a roll in the hay. But others don’t hint at sex, and say sweet, romantic things in email or on the…
The dangers of IM flirting
I’m told some people found the love of their life through an online dating chat room. Others have shared they got to know they beloved long distance through IMs. While IMs can be a way to get to know each other quickly, it can also create a false intimacy. I rarely open my IM application…
“All I seem to attract are players”
I discreetly turned to see who made this statement and saw an average-looking, middleaged woman at the table behind me at Starbucks talking to a gal pal about dating. She was wearing a low-cut camisole emphasizing 3 inches of cleavage and black bra straps showing underneath the spaghetti straps. I made a snap assessment linking…