Thanks for unknown blessings to come
“Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way." ~Native American prayer Since it's Thanksgiving week here in the US, this quote held significance for not only giving thanks for…
Posted inDating after 40 Moving on graciously
“The Bachelor” mirrors real life
Before you say, "DG, are you crazy? The Bachelor is totally contrived," hear me out. I'm not saying it's not artificial, nor that much of it parallels real life. In…
Giving and receiving emotional support
"My ex-girlfriend wanted me to support her emotionally, but she didn't do the same in return," my sweetie shared. "Hmm. I'm not sure I'd know the signs that someone was…
Where are you on the relationship recovery path?
DG reader Devon wrote: All divorced people are in a different place along the post-divorce road. I met someone wonderful last summer, attraction, chemistry, great sex, good conversation and we…
Paranoid or observant?
You've been dating around for a few years, having second dates or more with a dozen or so men. You have enough experience under your belt to notice that in…
Posted inDating after 40 From fear to frolic: sex
Is your attitude toward dating sex the same as with diets?
You've decided to hold off sex with the guy you're dating until you both feel the relationship is solid. Yes, you've made this decision before, only to watch it crumble…
Posted inDating after 40 From fear to frolic: sex
Friends with benefits — yes or no?
A DG reader, who wished not to be named, wrote: An attractive, charming and very-much-younger out-of-town male friend with whom I talk on the phone every few months for hours…
Why are we drawn to bad boys?
They are like forbidden foods when we are on a diet. They pull us toward them, no matter how much self-control we try to have. We work to resist, but…
Dating: A self-designed personal-growth workshop
Maybe you're like me and have attended a lot of seminars. Perhaps some of these have been personal-growth workshops. After taking a bunch of them, you realize you can design…
Good first-date advice from a gay man
The following was written by Brian Rzepczynski, "The Gay Love Coach" but the concepts apply to heterosexual relationships as well. I thought his concepts were so good, I wanted to…
Looking for a connection
"I've had a lot of sex in my life. I'm looking for a connection. Sex is an important element in a long-term relationship, but it's not the only important thing."…