Dating-over-40 advice by the Dating Goddess™
Today, a question from a reader:
“I’ve been seeing a guy for 6 months and we still can’t get farther than a quick peck on the lips or a quick impersonal hug. I’ve told him I want more intimacy but still nothing. What should I do?”
In my five-plus years of dating, I’ve connected with thousands of men from various dating sites. Some have only been through email, others progressed to a phone call, and I’ve actually met face-to-face with 101 of them.
I’ve never run into any of the ones who didn’t make it to the coffee date.
Until today.
by guest author, Regina Barreca, Ph.D.
We’ve all had The Bad Boyfriend. He’s the one you knew you had to leave. In order to get on with life, we need to put him in perspective. Part of that is acknowledging those things for which we should be grateful to him.
That isn’t easy to do.
I decided to help.
After several months of daily conversations and a few in-person dates, this out-of-state suitor shared his sentiment. I felt complimented, but at the same time quizzical.
I appreciated that he frequently sought and took my business counsel. But it made me think that he didn’t value a wife very highly. It stalled my desire to take our relationship to the next level. If it weren’t for my business acumen, would he respect me? Would he only engage my opinion if it were business related, and not about other aspects of our relationship?
A friend told me he’s going to buy a house with “Francine,” a woman he’s been seeing for a few years.
“Great!” I said. “You haven’t cohabited with anyone for a long time, so this will be quite a change for you.”
“No. I’ll buy it with her and stay there sometimes, but I’ll keep my place.”
“Really? Why?”
It continually amazes me to hear the comments some men make during the pre-date stage. You would think they would focus on putting their best foot forward, thinking about how they want to make a great impression.
But no.
Our Valentine’s contest judges found it difficult to choose a winner because there were so many good entries. I wish I had more prizes to award! I’m sure there will be other contests in the future as I seem to now be getting a regular stream of prize offerings.
Again several suppliers approached me with some fabulous prizes. I only have to mention their offer and they’ll provide great prizes to give one of you — but you have to enter to win!
The contest is for your best example of “This Valentine’s Day: Do This, Not That.” For example, “Do feed her fancy. Don’t decide on delivery.” My example would be “Do take her to watch her favorite team play. Don’t give her just a cardboard cutout of one of the players.” Or “Do give her special white wine glasses as that’s all she drinks. Don’t give her red wine glasses because you want the proper glass when you drink your red wine at her house.” See other examples.
What can you win?
If you’ve scanned any online profiles, you’ve probably been shocked at how poorly written 98% of them are. It seems few people can 1) write a coherent, typo-less sentence, and 2) describe themselves accurately and compellingly.
Enter a new service: ProfileWiz. Their press release describes it as:
