Two weeks ago I started seeing Mr. Dreamboat. However, 3 weeks ago, Mr. 400MilesAway bought an airline ticket and made hotel reservations to come meet me this upcoming weekend. Mr. Dreamboat and I have gotten pretty close, although we’ve only had 3 dates. I don’t really have a desire to meet anyone else right now, but I want to meet Mr. 400Miles. He’s been sweet and attentive and I’d like to at least meet him before I make any conclusion.
What to do? Do I tell Mr. 400Miles I’ve met someone else so he shouldn’t come? Tell him I’ve beginning to see someone and let him decide if he wants to come anyway? Not say anything and see what evolves?
For over 3 months Mr. 400Miles has called me nearly every day, so we know quite a bit about each other’s lives. It seems cold to dismiss him — to tell him not to come, without at least giving it a chance to see if we click. But I also don’t want to lead him on if I’m not interested. But how do I really know if we’d click if I haven’t met him? People can be quite different in person than on the phone.
While I believe in dating multiple guys when it is casual dating, not when it seems one could be serious. I feel really great about Dreamboat, and hope it develops into a long-term relationship, but it is too early to really tell. So far, however, so great!
So if Mr. 400Miles arrives as planned, do I tell Dreamboat? Before or after? (Dreamboat will be out of town for the weekend, so he won’t miss my not being around.) Or only if it would be a threat to what he and I have? My prediction is Mr. 400Miles will be a nice guy, but based on our phone conversations, I don’t think there will be a romantic spark. If I’m right, would it help or hinder my relationship with Dreamboat to tell him? We haven’t promised exclusivity, but he’s said he isn’t interested in seeing anyone else. I told him I hadn’t seen anyone else during the two weeks since I met him, which is true.
What would you do if you were in my shoes? If you were Mr. 400Miles or Mr. Dreamboat, what do you think would be the right approach?