Somehow that phrase crept into my repertoire many years ago. I don’t remember if someone said it to me or I made it up. But it keeps coming up as I hear someone say something that illustrates their view of reality is very different than mine. And of course, I sometimes get hit on the…
Month: January 2007
What dates are you inviting to influence you?
Within the first few weeks of the new year, I was contacted by five of the 73 men I’d gone out with the last two years. I’d been thinking about how grateful I was that many good men had passed through my life as a result of dating. In fact, I told each of the…
Exclusivity: How and when to broach it
A DG reader wrote: “I’d love to see a blog from you on how and when to decide to date just one person. I do struggle with this issue. I figure I’ll wait ’til they bring it up, but they haven’t, and I’m pretty sure they’ve assumed we’re an item and I’m not dating others….
Are you and your guy on the same sexual time line?
A male pal and I were discussing dating, and how sometimes a man and woman’s sexual time lines are different. In other words, one is ready to move forward physically before the other. For the sake of this illustration, we’ll assume the man wants things to move more quickly than the woman, although we know…
Questions to ask yourself before getting naked with him
You’re really attracted to the guy you’ve been dating. Things have been heating up and you feel soon you’ll be salsa-ing under the sheets. You think he’s attractive — perhaps even hot — and you can’t keep your hands off each other. My friend George says he asked himself two questions when dating before deciding…
The first time … calling him
A guy you’ve been emailing from a dating site has given you his number and requested you call if you want to talk. You’re grateful because you’re uneasy giving a stranger your phone number. His number sits on a Post-It on your desk. You pick it up several times a day. But you put it…
“Would you like the recipe for how to seduce me?”
“You know that ‘look’ women get when they want sex? Me neither.” –Steve Martin You’ve been dating a special guy for a while. You feel connected and closer to him than you’ve felt about others. He says and shows that he feels similarly. You want to take your relationship to the next level. Most couples…
Would dating coaching be valuable for you?
My friend Susan Page offers relationship coaching through professionals she’s trained. She is the bestselling author of If I’m So Wonderful Why Am I Still Single? and her most recent book, Why Talking Is Not Enough: 8 Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage. I decided to sample her coaching to see if it was…
What’s your kissing quotient?
Recently I’ve had six dates with a guy, but only one passionate kiss — on the fifth date! Before that I got pecks hello and goodbye. I began to wonder if he thought of me as a pal — or worse, his sister! But he treated me and touched me in ways that said otherwise….
Coupon use on a date: savvy or cheap?
This may seem like a silly issue, but it came up recently so I wanted to address it. A gal pal shared that she was a bit put off on a first date by a guy pulling out a 2-for-1 coupon when the bill arrived. Even though he was paying, she thought it made him…
Customer service parallels to dating
The other day a reporter interviewed me for an article on customer service. (In my professional life, I’m a bestselling author and expert on strategic customer service.) As she asked me question after question, I kept thinking, “This is just the same as in dating!” Or “I posted a blog entry about how that works…