Ashleigh Brilliant writes clever sayings that make you laugh or think. Part of his, well, brilliance is that the sayings are limited to a maximum of 17 words. He is one of the most widely-quoted living writers, and also the highest-paid (per word).
One of my favorite Pot Shots (which his musings are called) is the name of one of his books.
I May Not Be Totally Perfect, But Parts of Me Are Excellent
This is a good dating mantra. When you begin to focus on your imperfections (body shape, skin, wrinkles, hair, teeth, “baggage”), it is easy to forget that there are parts of you that are stupendous. Maybe it’s your quick wit, infectious laugh, great listening, continual thoughtfulness or loving compassion.
The guy who is for you will love you for all of your parts, not just the excellent ones. It’s the imperfect bits that make you the interesting and enticing creature you are.
And it also keeps you humble! Imagine how easy it would be to be arrogant if everything was flawless? My experience is the folks who are most arrogant have major imperfections and they use haughtiness to try to mask these failings.
Part of Cindy Crawford‘s allure is her mole. Angelina Jolie‘s overlarge lips are considered sexy. Mona Lisa‘s smile is enigmatic. Imagine how she’d look with a big smile flashing perfect, pure-white teeth.
Celebrate your unusualness. Perfection is boring and unattainable. Your atypical parts make you special, unique and rare. They are what makes you you. Which is, no doubt, excellent.
(Click on Ashleigh’s name above and you’ll go to his web site which has various products, including postcards, books, t-shirts, mugs, pillows, and hats with his over 9000 Pot Shots.)
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You said it.
But I think I have got the one, we have been dating for 2 years and we are planning to get married.
Does anyone remember the scene from the second Bridget Jones film where the gorgeous Mark Darcy stopped her from getting undressed under a blanket because he LOVED her wobbly bits and wanted to see them???
I have a guy like that. They do exist.
Gatti, grateful every day 🙂
Recently, an actor named Brad Garrett from a TV show called Everyone Loves Raymond was being interviewed by Jay Leno on his late-night talk show. Brad uttered a phrase that is prompting me to get a wardrobe of tee-shirts and other printable items made for myself, all of which will read: “I am an acquired taste.” I think that says it all, simply and succinctly.
Bookyone:
No, I’m not going to agree that men are superficial.
After my makeover, I asked my guy what he thought. I had on no make up at the time I asked. He said, “Honestly, I can’t see the difference. You are gorgeous to me all the time.”
*That* is not superficial!