Are you assessing — or judging — your date?
These terms are often used interchangeably. However, I see a difference. Assessing is when you notice things about him. He's 6-feet tall, blue eyed, with dark curly hair. He has…
Are you date sated — or hungry?
Sate: satisfy (a desire or an appetite) to the full; supply (someone) with as much as or more of something than is desired or can be managed. You know not…
Expressing your upset with your guy
When conflict occurs in a personal relationship, it's easy to blame the other. In my communication seminars I teach a 4-step method* for telling someone you're upset with something they've…
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Are you sending (or receiving) mixed messages?
You know what mixed messages are, but you may not be aware you're sending them: You tell the guy you're dating you want to move slowly, yet you try to…
Removing your mask
Most of us wear a mask, presenting ourselves as we want people to perceive us, not only in dating but in life. We decide how much and how soon to…
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What do you think your date’s car says about him?
Some women judge a man by his car. If he drives an expensive car, she assumes he's financially sound. But he could be hocked up to his eyeballs to pay…
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Long-distance dating pros and cons
Some people set no distance requirements on potential suitors. One DG reader shared she was romanced by a guy half way around the world for over two years! (They never…
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Being “thrown under the bus”
This is a common term in the dating world to express a breakup. At the end of a relationship, you are either the one being thrown or the one doing…
Eliciting your friends’ reactions to your guy
After dating a guy a while, you want to introduce him to your friends. You're hoping they'll see how terrific he is. But what if they don't? You are torn…
Turn your liabilities into assets
Years ago I led a seminar on how to have a positive attitude at work. In the text, Attitude: Your Most Priceless Possession, author Elwood Chapman suggests employing the "Flipside…
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Saluting all midlife dating moms
I'm not a mom, but have watched my single friends who are dating. I marvel at how they juggle work, kids and their personal lives. Today being Mother's Day, I…