Do you infantilize your guy?
Infantilize: Treat (someone) as a child or in a way that denies their maturity in age or experience. In "Does he want a 'mommy'?" we discussed how some men want…
Are you his spare?
For a few weeks a gal pal was exchanging flirty emails multiple times a day with a an online match. He then suggested they have dinner and she countered that…
Fresh out of men?
When you find yourself out of prospective dates, wouldn't it be great if you could just go to the store and pick up what you want? Were it that easy.…
Should you respond to someone about whom you’re ambivalent?
You receive a nice, personalized email from a man on a dating site. He's crafted an message specific to you, commenting on items from your profile. His profile is fine,…
What is your attire telling your dates?
Is what you wear on the first few dates with a guy sending the messages you want? Do you find men relate to you differently than you'd like? It may…
The power of appreciation in dating
Many years ago I heard a speaker state that 95% of communication in a romantic relationship should be acknowledgment. In other words, most of what you say to each other…
Slow down, you move too fast
Yesterday, I spent time with a colleague I hadn't seen in a long time. I knew he had been online dating so was interested in an update. He had decided…
Does he “get” you?
The dictionary has many meanings for the word "get." This discussion is about the informal term for "understand." But I think "get" goes beyond just understanding. My friend author/speaker Larry…
Dating alchemy
A newly dating gal pal called and wanted some advice. She's recently become a DG reader and was sharing her few experiences getting her feet wet. As we chatted and…
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Which character exemplifies your dating style?
Several years ago women were regularly overheard talking about which "Sex and the City" character they were most like. I could never decide, as I saw some of each of…
What makes midlife dating different?
I'm often asked what makes dating in midlife different than dating in your 20's and 30's -- at least for women. While I know the following are gross generalizations and…