There seem to be several camps on this: Immediately when the annoyance happens, even on the first date. Say something so he can modify his behavior. No matter how small the irritation, you should say something when it happens. Not on the first date, unless the behavior is egregious (blowing his nose in the cloth…
Dating chemistry
Being seduced by what he is over who he is
I admit it. I’ve been so enticed by what a man is that it’s clouded my judgment about who he is. When dating the crazy psychiatrist, I adored when he consulted the pharmacist about what over-the-counter remedy would reduce my cold symptoms. I loved telling my friends that I was dating a doctor. Shallow, I…
He wants romance; you want friendship
One of the hardest parts of dating is when one of you is interested romantically in the other, but it’s not reciprocated. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of “Let’s just be friends,” it’s never easy to deal with. Here’s my most recent trial with this situation. Two years ago, we dated for…
Assume there are other women
Most of us who employ online dating adopt a “don’t ask, don’t tell” philosophy about dating multiple people simultaneously. At least until we’re ready to get more serious. When I am seeing a few guys, I don’t ask the date I’m with if he’s seeing others because I don’t want him asking me. I assume…
The sexual audition
Some people feel it is important to discover if you are sexually compatible before investing a lot of time developing a relationship with someone. Others feel that sex is something that should happen after a firm foundation of trust and caring has been developed. If you are in the first camp, then your first time…
Managing disappointments
Dating can take an emotional toll. You get your hopes up when it seems someone is a great match. Even when you try to manage them, expectations creep in. You start having hopes, perhaps fantasizing about a future together. Then something happens that dashes it all. A deal breaker emerges. A total impasse. Something one…
Love me tender
In Elvis‘ song, he says, “Love me tender, love me sweet, never let me go.” Doesn’t that say a lot? Love me tenderly and sweetly. And when you do, I don’t want you ever to let me go. I want that tenderness and sweetness to last forever. The dictionary defines tender as “showing gentleness and…
“I want to court you”
These words are heart melting to a woman who wants love, romance, and a long-term relationship. No other man had said these to me. They were voiced after two weeks of nightly talking for hours about things that were important to each of us. What broke up past relationships, what was important to each of…
The deliciousness of pillow talk
There’s something delicious about late-night calls with your sweetheart. They are even more yummy than a mint on your pillow, and I love chocolate! When snuggled in bed talking on the phone the conversation seems to get deeper, more tender, and of course, sometimes provocative! This virtual tucking in can bring you closer as long…
Do you have time to wait to open your heart?
A friend of mine died this week. I don’t know if I’ll ever become accustomed to people dying, especially when someone succumbs unexpectedly, as he did. When someone passes it prompts us to reflect on what’s important. Loved ones always appear at the top of that list. We become more appreciative of the gifts around…
Dating as therapy
Dating books say that dating shouldn’t be used as therapy. In other words, you shouldn’t use your guy to be your sounding board and work through issues as you would with a therapist. In fact, even if he is a therapist — especially if he is a therapist — you shouldn’t expect him to act…