Control freak or detail oriented?
In the 18 months between when my ex left and I started dating, I had plenty of time to consider what I wanted in my next man. One of my…
Are you a good man picker?
A Dating Goddess reader wrote lamenting her string of dates who weren't a fit. She said, "I am struck by how consistently poor my 'picking ability' is." How is your…
Releasing back into the dating pool
Doesn't this phrase sound benign? Refreshing even? Can you imagine a perfect-temperatured, clear, tranquil pool, inviting you to dip your toes or immerse yourself totally in the rejuvenating water? Do…
Instead of roses, he gives you … lingerie
On our fourth date he announced, "I bought you a present." "Oh? I inquired, "What?" "I'll give it to you later." At the end of the evening he handed me…
“I only want to date someone I would marry”
A newly divorced friend was intrigued by my philosophy about dating so many men. She said, "I just couldn't do that. I don't want to date anyone I wouldn't see…
Men and Zen
My beau du jour is a vegetarian Buddhist who plays guitar professionally in two reggae bands. Additionally, he holds down a day job, and runs his own small business after…
Him or someone better
Do you know the prayer, "This or something better"? It is commonly used when you are awaiting some good news -- a new job, new client, offer on a new…
Sleepover do’s and don’ts
"Sleepover? For adults?" you may be asking. "What do you mean?" Two-person pajama party. Duo slumber party. Couple cuddle fest. Jammie jam. No-sex sleepover. It can happen early in the…
Build a relationship bridge one strand at a time
When beginning to date someone you like, your shared experiences connect you together. You're building a relationship bridge. Each experience creates small strands of the bridge's supporting cables. The laughs,…
Being present to the presents
My nearly divorced 48-year-old neighbor said she was inspired by my philosophy expressed in this blog. She asked how I could still be positive and upbeat after going out with…
Dating is like a box of chocolates
With apologies to Forrest Gump's momma (and author Winston Groom), dating is like a box of chocolates. And the rest of the quote is correct too, "You never know what…