In “What’s your definition of romance?” we talked about specific activities that most women consider romantic. However, I’ve been thinking more about what comprises romance. Then I got this question from a male reader in response to the posting “The Valentine’s angst is upon us“: I have some angst about Valentine’s Day. It is a…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
All you need is love?
The other day I had coffee with a man I dated briefly a year ago and with whom I’ve stayed in touch. As we were catching up, he chided me for not having an elective medical procedure that he thinks is important and I think is less so. When he pressed why I hadn’t done…
Midlife men have forgotten how to date
Swapping dating stories with a guy pal, I said, based on my observations, it seems many midlife men have forgotten how to date and be with a woman. He agreed. He hasn’t been in a relationship in a few years and he’s so used to being single he admits he’s forgotten some dating skills. This…
Have you built a fortress around your heart?
If we’ve been hurt in love, it is easy to say, “I’m not going to let that happen again.” We close off our heart, building a wall around it so no one can get close. The pain is too great. We don’t want to feel like that ever again. We do whatever we can so…
Romancing the media on Valentine’s Day
After my posting yesterday on “You are loved!” I certainly felt the love from many sources, including an unexpected one — the media! So excuse me, dear readers, but allow me to share my excitement. The Wall Street Journal quoted me in an article, “High-Tech Breakups Are Quick But Inflict a Special Pain; Getting Even…
You are loved!
Happy Valentine’s Day! The spirit of Valentine’s Day is to show others you care about them and, in turn, others will show that you are loved. However, sometimes we need to step back and see how love shows up in our lives in subtle ways. It’s easy to focus on only romantic love on this…
The sweet rewards of flirting
Usually flirting’s rewards are putting a smile on someone else’s face as well as your own, sharing a laugh and connection, enjoying the moment, and sometimes getting a hug, a kiss, or a date. But I’ve just received a new reward for my flirting. A few weeks ago I wrote “Flirting with fame — and…
Falling in love is like cocaine
In Wednesday’s USA Today psychiatrist Daniel Amen said, “Love is a drug. Falling in love is like taking cocaine. It works in the same center of the brain.” We all know that falling in love is euphoric. In “The addiction of dating” I likened it to drugs. I had no idea a scientist would come…
Dateless for Valentine’s?
What if you are like many who are dating — without a regular sweetie with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you’ve been dating around, but there’s no one who it makes sense to get all lovey dovey with on this, the snuggle fest of holidays. So what’s a gal to do? How about treating…
Do you feel PHAT on a date?
No, I’m not asking if you are fat. Although many midlife women are concerned about extra pounds that have accumulated through childbirth, enjoying life, heredity, and slowing metabolism. I find it interesting that most of the overweight men I’ve gone out with don’t consider themselves overweight, but near-normal-weight women often consider themselves fat. I’m talking…
The Valentine’s angst is upon us
Valentine’s Day can be stressful, no matter what your situation. If you don’t have a sweetie in your life and want one, perhaps you’re feeling some stress. One radio interviewer wanted me to help his listeners with ideas on how to get a sweetheart by Valentine’s Day. Since I’m not in the quick-hookup business, I…