Have you found yourself feeling that dating is a hobby? And just like some hobbies, you do it more or less often than other things you enjoy. I find myself immersing myself in some hobbies, then totally abandoning them for long stretches. And just like belly dancing, scuba diving or parachute jumping, you need specialized…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
“Are you man enough to be my man?”
This can be a common thought for powerful, successful, midlife dating women. It was expressed by DG reader “Diamond” in a question to me: I’ve been in business my whole life. A friend’s mother shared this advice just prior to my running off to meet what I thought was the man of my dreams in…
Avoiding a trip to Abilene in dating
I have nothing against Abilene. I’ve been to Abilene, KS and it was a nice town, home to the Eisenhower Museum. I’ve not been to Abilene, TX. But I’m really talking about the metaphor described in the management education film called “The Abilene Paradox.” In the film, adult family members are visiting their parents and…
Treasures can come in dented packages
If you received a gift in a Tiffany’s box but the corner was mushed, would you be unhappy? If you were given a 2-pound box of your favorite Godiva with the top indented, would you be disappointed? No, of course not. Because you know it’s what’s inside that really matters, not the packaging. Many midlife…
When you’re inappropriately dressed for a date
You feel stupid. You forgot to ask about appropriate attire and just made an assumption. He’d invited you to dinner and you mistook the name of the restaurant for a high-end one with a similar name to this tavern. You’re in a flirty, low-cut cocktail dress with glittering accessories and high heels, which is totally…
Is romance real?
My friend Sharon Ellison, M.S. emailed me this article and I thought you might like it. Sharon is an award-winning speaker, international consultant and the author of Taking the War Out of Our Words. Email her if you have a thought to share with her. Billions of dollars are made on movies and novels about…
Consciously creating the relationship you want
“Don’t let what you’ve created get in the way of what you want to create.” —Jana Stanfield My friend Jana Stanfield, the amazing musical artist, said this as we talked about our somewhat recent singlehood and what we could do with our lives now that we didn’t have a husband about whom to be concerned….
Happy Dating Independence Day
I don’t think the US government will change the name of this day, but I think we can add to the meaning of Independence Day to extend to a healthy philosophy about dating. It could mean that you are declaring your independence from dating. You’re going to stop hunting, remove yourself from dating sites and…
Marketing 101 for dating
Today I was strolling down the fresh men aisle at my favorite dating site. No one was enticing enough to pick off the shelf and examine more closely. I wasn’t even drawn to read any labels (profiles). What was wrong? Lack of marketing. With very few exceptions, online daters don’t know how to get people…
Signs of manipulation
DG reader Bigi asked me to address the topic of manipulation. Specifically, how to tell if a man is trying to manipulate you. She says, “I am so gullible and really want to trust so I tend to trust the wrong fellows because I just don’t realize how I have been manipulated.” While some of…
Are you set in your ways?
A complaint I hear from midlife daters is that others they date seem set in their ways. This can become evident on the first date or it may take a while. But for those who this describes, it eventually comes out. It might be an unwillingness to try a new cuisine, refusal to travel abroad,…