When my friends ask if a particular man I’m seeing is handsome, I commonly respond, “If I saw him from across the room, I wouldn’t say ‘Who’s that yummy guy?’ But the more I’m with him, the yummier he gets.” Men seem to become cuter as their personalities emerge. A man who isn’t George Clooney…
First-rate first dates
A man to go with my wardrobe
Our lifestyle is often reflected by the clothing we’re most comfortable in, which often represents the activities we enjoy. Most of us have a range of clothing from sweats to business attire to formal apparel. We know how important first impressions are. While successful people would never show up for a job interview inappropriately dressed,…
He had me from “You’re gorgeous!”
In “Jerry McGuire,” Renee Zellweger‘s character tells Jerry “You had me from ‘hello.’” Mine was a little different. We’d talked a few times on the phone and had nice, but brief, conversations. I wrote about him in “Putting your best voice forward.” I had no idea if I’d be attracted to him or him to…
Date turned out to be losing bet
While most daters can regale you with dates gone bad, I’ve been lucky enough to only have about 10% of my dates in this category. And even bad dates have had some learning for me. This one, some months ago, helped me create the “only coffee first date” rule. After seeing the movie “Dreamer: Inspired…
“Hot bunking” your beaus
No, I am not suggesting you hot wire your guys! The original phrase “hot bunking” relates to sleeping in shifts on a ship. There aren’t enough bunks so one sailor gets up and another, just getting off duty, lies down before the other’s body heat dissipates. I’m using the term tongue-in-cheek here, not literally! By…
First-date red flags that this guy isn’t for you
He’s pleasant and cordial. However, there are red flags that make you cautious. Some by themselves are deal breakers (he drinks too much), while others have the cumulative effect of “I’m going to pass on this guy.” For each woman the red flags she notices will be different. Here are some of mine: He talks…
The importance of sweet talk
You’ve developed a fondness for each other in several long phone conversations, so you agree to meet. There are signs he’s attracted — he touches you gently, holds your hand, looks you in the eye, pays attention to what you say, asks about you and your interests, seems interested in pleasing you. You are drawn…
Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date
He’s pleasant and cordial, not a jerk. But there are signs that there won’t be a second date. You’d agreed to meet for a drink. The waiter brings your drinks, but when he asks if you are ready to order, your date says, “We’re just having drinks.” If he were interested in spending more time…
Chivalry isn’t dead — but it seems to be hibernating
A few of my dates have had impeccable manners. Most weren’t brought up in a house of privilege. Some were taught how to treat a woman by their mothers. However, if their mother didn’t teach them, at some point they decided it was important to learn and practice chivalry. What do I mean? Holding doors,…
Gentleman morphs into masher
I recognized him at the airport coming past Security. He was taller than he seemed in his pics, better looking and better built. He’d been on an airplane 13 hours, yet he’d donned a suit and tie because he knew I find men in well-fitting suits sexy! He recognized me — I was wearing a…
Anticipating a big date is like awaiting Santa
Tonight I’m meeting a man with whom I’ve been communicating for a month, with nearly daily hour-long phone calls. I feel like a kid on Christmas Eve, unsettled with the excitement of what Santa will bring. Do you remember that feeling of joyous anticipation as you await a big event? Will the electricity be as…