In a recent NY Times article “Is It Over? Log on and See,” journalist Melena Ryzik explores how many young people don’t know their partner has broken up with them until they see his/her MySpace status changed to “single.” She points out that the status change often quickly follows a spat — but sometimes it’s…
Dear Fido
This guy kept coming to the top of my matches on one of the dating sites, so after a few months I decided to initiate contact. But I did so with his dog mentioned in his profile, which we’ll call “Fido” to protect his — and his owner’s — identity. The things mentioned are references…
Are you drawn to “Oscar” or “Felix”?
Do you like guys who are more Oscar-like or more like Felix? Recently, I got to test for myself. For 7 weeks I dated a guy who was a lot like Jack Klugman‘s character Oscar Madison in “The Odd Couple.” While a very sweet, smart, affectionate, attentive guy, he always looked rumpled. He was even…
Broaching tough conversations
In talking with a married gal pal, we discussed how sometimes it is hard to bring up difficult issues to your mate. I shared that there were things in my marriage that I wish I’d brought up, but instead kept them to myself. She agreed that she was withholding some difficult topics in her relationship…
Do you tend to your relationships the same as your plants?
While visiting a guy I’m dating, I had some free time as he was BBQing dinner. I noticed some of his patio plants needed a little cleaning up. I asked him if I could tend to them and he said sure. As I began to clean out the spent blooms and dried leaves, it struck…
My experience being on the Greg Behrendt Show
I flew into Los Angeles the night before the taping of the Greg Behrendt Show. A driver took me from the hotel to the studio. I was promptly whisked to hair and make up where two professionals took excellent care of me. I left their studio looking “maaaarvelous,” as Billy Crystal would say. Then to…
Dating Goddess taping new Greg Behrendt talk show today!
I was asked to be a guest on the Greg Behrendt Show and we’re taping today. Greg is the co-author of the bestseller He’s Just Not That Into You which I’ve mentioned several times in this blog and have listed in the “Good Dating Books” pages. The show launches Sept. 12 on daytime TV. I…
Complain about what you don’t have or enjoy what you have
A guy I’d been dating persistently tried to pressure me to go sexually further than I was comfortable. I continued saying “no” and reminded him that he had agreed to my boundaries. He kept commenting on what he’d like to be doing with me. I finally got tired of his trying to persuade me, so…
Men and women see sex differently
“Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” —Billy Crystal I am continually flummoxed by how men and women seem to see sex so totally differently. From my experience, it seems that men take sex much less seriously than women. I know I’m generalizing here. I know there are always exceptions,…
Talk is cheap
While I believe that words are very important, actions are equally important. So if a guy tells you how much he’s are attracted to you or wants to be with you, but doesn’t take actions to see you, he is just stringing you along. If he gives you excuse after excuse, just let him go….
“Hot bunking” your beaus
No, I am not suggesting you hot wire your guys! The original phrase “hot bunking” relates to sleeping in shifts on a ship. There aren’t enough bunks so one sailor gets up and another, just getting off duty, lies down before the other’s body heat dissipates. I’m using the term tongue-in-cheek here, not literally! By…