One of the joys I’ve experienced with online dating is discovering amazing men. I wrote about this in “Dating as networking.” A year ago, I received a well-written email from an intelligent, engaging, articulate, educated, feisty, 64-year-old man. He was older than I prefer, lives 3000 miles away, and had no picture posted. However, his…
A man to go with my wardrobe
Our lifestyle is often reflected by the clothing we’re most comfortable in, which often represents the activities we enjoy. Most of us have a range of clothing from sweats to business attire to formal apparel. We know how important first impressions are. While successful people would never show up for a job interview inappropriately dressed,…
Multi-dating pros and cons
When I’ve shared with single, dating guy pals that I’m multi-dating they say that there is a double standard. If a guy talked about having dates with multiple women, he’d be chastised and accused of being a player. Isn’t the reason for dating to find out who you click with and who you don’t? Sometimes…
Men are like shoes
Soon after I began dating, I was hunting for date shoes in my favorite shoe store, DSW (Discount Shoe Warehouse). It is a cavernous store carrying thousands of varieties. One shoe per style and color sits atop a column of that style’s variously sized boxed shoes. As I slowly cruised each long aisle scrutinizing each…
Fantasizing while Jazzercizing
I Jazzercise twice a week. A few months ago the class began in the church right next door to me. As a lackadaisical exerciser, I figured this was God’s way of saying “You now have no viable excuse not to exercise.” Even with a morning yoga class a block away, I nearly always turn over…
Why men go “poof”
Vanish. Disappear. Do a David Copperfield. I’ve pondered this a lot, as it’s happened often. I’ve interviewed men friends. The following is what I’ve gleaned. If you don’t hear from a guy after one date, it’s clear he’s not interested. No problem, even though it’s classier to send a nice email stating such. But what…
He’s baaaaack!
This phrase may conjure up images of Arnold Schwarzenegger (“The Governator”) in “The Terminator 2.” The man I’m referring to has a few of Arnold’s characteristics — an easy smile, intelligence, humor, confidence — and nice biceps! Previously I wrote about “Boomerang boyfriends.” These are guys who get back in touch after months without contact….
“I could really see us together if you lost weight”
Most of us would be incensed hearing this. I wasn’t. A dear male pal, someone I’d dated briefly 18 months ago, told me this recently. We were having a heart to heart, honest talk about the ups and downs of dating and why I hadn’t found Mr. Right yet. About a month after our first…
Being “aggressively single”
My friend British professional speaker Graham Davies describes himself as “aggressively single.” He’s 44 and has a highly successful speaking business in Europe and the US. Friends tease me about the number of men I’ve gone out with in the last two years. Often they exclaim, “I haven’t dated that many people in my life!”…
Why do we date?
Common responses include: to have fun, romance, companionship, a family, sex, a “soft place to land,” affection, love, excitement, security, marriage, a life partner, to love and be loved, and eliminate loneliness. All good reasons. However, I think one of the most profound reasons is stated by Susan Sarandon‘s character Beverly Clark, in the American…
He had me from “You’re gorgeous!”
In “Jerry McGuire,” Renee Zellweger‘s character tells Jerry “You had me from ‘hello.’” Mine was a little different. We’d talked a few times on the phone and had nice, but brief, conversations. I wrote about him in “Putting your best voice forward.” I had no idea if I’d be attracted to him or him to…