You’d think that this would be high on the list of a single woman’s most-desired questions. Unfortunately, for me it was not. We’d been dating for four months, although we saw each other only every 9-12 days. He called every day, but we hadn’t really spent much time together. I was fond of him, but…
“Any booty will do”
At my professional association’s conference, a long-single man I’ve known 10+ years stepped up his flirting with me. He’s significantly younger, shorter, and geographically undesirable, as well as other characteristics that make us not a good match, but we’re pals and dancing buddies. At one of the informal events, I was lying on my side…
Charm school for men?
Many times I have said that I should start a charm school for men. (And I know men who say they should do this for women.) The challenge is the ones who really need it wouldn’t register. My friend Ken Braly sent me an interesting article from yesterday’s San Francisco Chronicle. In “Charm school for…
An excuse to seduce or how important is sexual compatibility?
Really the question is, how important is finding out if you’re sexual compatible early in a relationship? A guy pal told me his sister began dating a guy. She told her guy she’d decided to wait six months before having sex, because in the past she’d fallen into bed with men too early and then…
Are you getting prime time from your man?
A guy pal called me on a Friday night and was surprised I was home. He knew I’d been dating a guy for a few weeks and thought I’d be out on the town. “Is he out of town?” he asked. “No.” When I explained that I saw my guy Wed., but we weren’t scheduled…
Qualify your potential dates before meeting
After dating now nearly 2 years, I’ve learned how to weed out many men who aren’t good matches. Why meet and waste both our time? Men have to go through a few hoops to earn a date with me — even if it’s just a coffee date. I have more invitations than I have time…
The singles’ life: swapping sexual favors for … dog sitting!
A former flame recently told me an old girlfriend, who ended their relationship extremely badly, asked if he’d take care of her dogs while she’s on vacation. When he said yes, but wouldn’t accept any money for it, she offered to give him sexual services in exchange for dog sitting. She’d even designed a sexual-favors…
Would you lie to get laid?
My friend Ian Percy pointed out that in Sue Pelletier’s blog entry “What’s your backstory?” she discusses the Dentyne “Happy Hunting” guide to help young men and women seem more attractive to each other. For example, it gives some fake stories you can use to impress the other sex (e.g., you were in a commercial…
Judging a guy by how well he … punctuates
I was chatting with my friend Jeff Rubin (The Newsletter Guy) about dating profiles and punctuation today. “Punctuation?” you ask. “That’s a weird topic.” Not to Jeff and other of my friends. You see, Jeff started National Punctuation Day (Sept. 24) to call attention to the importance of proper punctuation. The book Eats, Shoots &…
Date turned out to be losing bet
While most daters can regale you with dates gone bad, I’ve been lucky enough to only have about 10% of my dates in this category. And even bad dates have had some learning for me. This one, some months ago, helped me create the “only coffee first date” rule. After seeing the movie “Dreamer: Inspired…
No, I will not be dating your Harley
I am often amazed at the pictures guys post in their profiles. After nearly two years of online man shopping — looking at profiles — I shouldn’t be surprised anymore. But based on all the pictures of men with their motorcycles, these must be babe magnets. I’ve even seen men post 12 pictures of their…