When a friend asks about a potential suitor I’ve talked about but is no longer around, they seem surprised when I say “He’s gone. They come, they go.” This is how it is in the dating world. You see someone a few times, then they lose interest or move on, but don’t bother to tell…
Flirt your heart out
“Flirt — a girl whose favorite man is the next one.” —Anonymous After spending the day together shopping and dining, a friend told me she marveled at my ability to flirt and said I should teach classes on flirting! I hadn’t really thought about it until she said it. Yes, I am friendly, I smile…
In search of the elusive good kisser
“A man’s kiss is his signature. ” —Mae West I’ve been surprised by the lack of good kissers in my dating adventures. Granted, sometimes it takes a while to actually get a romantic kiss — if ever. It took 6 dates with one guy before I got a “real” kiss — something beyond…
Paris — right invitation, wrong guy
I’ve been invited to Paris by two guys. In fact, one guy asked me twice, 15 months apart, and I wasn’t even dating him the second time. And I had never dated the other guy. I did not accept the invitations. Why? The first time, with the twice-asker, I had just been dating him a…
What is the definition of a date?
I went to the movie yesterday with a guy I’d had a lunch date with a year ago. When I told a friend about this, I said, “I don’t know it was a date or not.” “Did he ask you to the movie?” “I don’t recall. We talked a few weeks ago and the movie…
Double standards
I was lamenting — OK, complaining — to a male friend the other day about how men have double standards. They want someone who is “slim, fit, athletic, toned” when they themselves have not seen the inside of a gym or done any physical activity for years. I am always surprised when I meet a…
You are (probably) more attractive than you think you are!
It seems that people have a mismatch on their expectation of attractiveness. The stereotype is that a man wants (and often gets) a woman who is much more attractive than he is. Women often put money, status, demeanor and sense of humor ahead of attractiveness, when looks are often at or near the top of…
Be careful of being smitten
As I was enthusiastically describing to a friend my fondness for my newest gentleman caller, she asked “Are you smitten?” I pondered, then replied, “No, enamored.” We then discussed the difference. The dictionary describes smitten as “To affect sharply with great feeling; marked by foolish or unreasoning fondness.” Enamored: “To inspire with love; captivate.” “Smitten”…
What do men look at in your profile?
Yesterday a dating friend told me what he thinks men look for in women’s profiles. First, your picture. If he likes your face, he’ll look for one that shows your body. If he likes your body type, he’ll read more. After body, he looks for height, as he likes taller women. Then he’ll look at…
A favorite question to ask
Dr. Phil says we don’t ask the right questions when determining if someone might be a good match for us. I’m sure he’s right. I now have a list of questions I *wish* I’d asked, which I’ll post later. One of my favorite questions to ask tells me a lot about the man. I explain…
When it clicks, throw out some of your criteria
I met a wonderful man online 10 days ago. He is successful, intelligent, funny, gentlemanly, worldly, interesting, communicative, educated, considerate, articulate, complimentary, shares his feelings, and is a great conversationalist. So far, we share the values we’ve discussed. We have similar political views and philosophies about life. We are both small business owners. We talk…