Yesterday I had a first phone call with a potential date. While his profile was refreshing and intriguing, the conversation was strained. I tried to pull him out by asking questions related to his profile comments. Although he’d initiated contact with me within 24 hours of the call, he asked me nothing about my profile…
Does he invite you to his place?
Yesterday a friend called: “I have a new lesson about dating.” She’s been dating longer than I have so I was interested in what new wisdom she’d gleaned. “Spill,” I demanded. “Before you get too involved with someone make sure you go to his home. If he doesn’t have you over, he may have another…
One-date wonders
You know how some groups are called “one-hit wonders” because they had one hit song and never again appeared on the Billboard charts? I have my dating version of that — one-date wonders. These are guys who after one date were at the top of MY chart, but we didn’t see each other again. Luckily,…
Dating karma
I believe what goes around comes around. How you treat others is how you will be treated. Of course, there are always exceptions — you were cranky with someone and she went out of her way to be nice. Or you were nice, and he was mean. But generally, I believe if you are polite,…
Truth is stranger than fiction
I have had a few strange encounters during my dating adventure. None of them I could have imagined. Today I was contacted by a priest! His picture showed him in black priest attire (what is that called? Vestments? Cassock?) and white collar! I assume he is Episcopalian, but who knows? It reminded me of some…
Becoming smitten with the fantasy
I’ve been surprised when men become smitten with me without yet meeting me. Perhaps we’ve had some interesting emails and phone calls, and they begin professing their love — or lust — for me. It’s happened enough times, I’ve decided they fall for the fantasy. When I was first dating, it happened to me. Now…
Boomerang boyfriends
Last night I got a call from a guy I had one date with four months ago. He wanted to see if I was available. I’ve had guys break up with me and a week later want to get back together. I call these Boomerang Boyfriends. You stop seeing each other for whatever reason. Perhaps…
How to say “thanks but no thanks” to online winks, flirts and teases
When someone is not a member of a dating site — or they are lazy — they float a trial balloon by clicking on “Wink” (depending on the site, these are also called flirts or teases). I am convinced some men do a rudimentary search by criteria such as “breathing” and “lives on the planet…
Shopping for men
Dating life can be brutal. You make an effort to look nice (I call it getting “dated up”) to meet someone new, then he either doesn’t contact you afterwards, tells you he’s not attracted to you or there’s none of that elusive “chemistry.” You have to have perseverance and hope that someone for you is…
Chemistry, or does he make my toes curl?
Chemistry is often listed as what one wants in a relationship. However no one can seem to describe what that is. They will just “know it when they feel it.” It is attraction. For men it seems to be “I want to be intimate with this person.” For women, it can be “I feel great…
How do you greet him?
When I first started dating, I asked my dating friends, “How do you greet someone upon first meeting?” Shaking hands seems so businesslike. Doing nothing seems cold and aloof. I’ve settled on a quick hug. Since I’ve often been flirting with potential suitors by phone and email for at least a few days if not…