One of the reasons people are hesitant to date is because of the potential for rejection. I would say you not only have the potential to be rejected — it is a certainty. Let’s look at this word “rejection.” The dictionary says, “dismiss as inadequate, inappropriate, or not to one’s taste.” No one likes to…
Tag: Dating after 40
Being seduced by what he is over who he is
I admit it. I’ve been so enticed by what a man is that it’s clouded my judgment about who he is. When dating the crazy psychiatrist, I adored when he consulted the pharmacist about what over-the-counter remedy would reduce my cold symptoms. I loved telling my friends that I was dating a doctor. Shallow, I…
Get back on the horse that threw you
After a distasteful or painful dating experience, it’s tempting to stop dating for a while. In fact, some people find a heartbreaking experience so odious that they swear off dating for years. While it’s a good idea to take a break to heal your wounds, if you go too long you lose your rhythm. You…
Your Date-A-Base — tracking multiple suitors
When people hear that I’ve dated 71 men in 2 years and that I often date several guys simultaneously, they commonly ask, “How do you keep them straight?” I respond, “With a Date-A-Base.” Since I’m a business woman, I’ve long kept a database to track my customers. In business it is also known as a…
Are you a happy dater?
The other day one of my dearest friends Ellie, asked me how I managed to stay so happy. It’s true that generally I’m a perpetually perky person, but I do have my bouts with unhappiness when faced with setbacks and disappointments. I’ve worked hard to reduce the time I spend in a dreary mood when…
Are you a “Let’s Make a Deal” type of dater?
Do you remember the TV show, “Let’s Make a Deal“? TV.com describes it as “a game of intuition, skill, luck, decision making and greed…all mixed into one.” Sounds like dating, doesn’t it? Maybe not the greed part, unless a gold digger is involved. I was thinking about this show as I was comparing several men…
Cleaning out the suitors
Sometimes too much of a good thing is not wonderful, as Mae West said it was. Instead it can be time consuming. Too many potential suitors can mean it’s time to release some back into the dating pool. Today I had dates with two new guys — one for lunch, one for coffee. Additionally, I…
Do you hide your “light” from a date?
A gal pal asked me, “How do your dates respond to your accomplishments?” I responded, “Most don’t know about them.” “Really? Why not?” “Because I don’t tell them.” “Why?” “First of all, it’s not like I’m a Nobel laureate, Supreme Court judge, Academy Award nominee or brain surgeon. My accomplishments pale compared to other people…
What’s your definition of romance?
Often men say they are romantic in their online dating profiles. I’ve learned this means different things to different people. One may think that calling every day is romantic, while the other is expecting regular cards, letters, and candle-lit dinners. It seems men and women often have different concepts of romance. This is so common,…
When you’re clear on what you want, it appears
In the past year I attended both the Toronto and San Jose Film Festivals. I loved screening yet-to-be-released films followed by live commentary from the writers, directors and stars. I delighted in the experience so much, I thought, “I’d like to be with someone in the movie business. It would be fun to hang out…
Rocket Man
I’ve become fond of a man online who blows things up for a living. Tiny things. Miniatures. For the movies. And he’s won an Oscar for his demolition efforts. Isn’t this nearly every man’s childhood dream? To make a living destroying things? How fun! He specializes in igniting things. He says he “paints with fire.”…