Do you remember the TV show, “Let’s Make a Deal“? TV.com describes it as “a game of intuition, skill, luck, decision making and greed…all mixed into one.” Sounds like dating, doesn’t it? Maybe not the greed part, unless a gold digger is involved. I was thinking about this show as I was comparing several men…
Tag: dating after forty
Cleaning out the suitors
Sometimes too much of a good thing is not wonderful, as Mae West said it was. Instead it can be time consuming. Too many potential suitors can mean it’s time to release some back into the dating pool. Today I had dates with two new guys — one for lunch, one for coffee. Additionally, I…
Do you hide your “light” from a date?
A gal pal asked me, “How do your dates respond to your accomplishments?” I responded, “Most don’t know about them.” “Really? Why not?” “Because I don’t tell them.” “Why?” “First of all, it’s not like I’m a Nobel laureate, Supreme Court judge, Academy Award nominee or brain surgeon. My accomplishments pale compared to other people…
What’s your definition of romance?
Often men say they are romantic in their online dating profiles. I’ve learned this means different things to different people. One may think that calling every day is romantic, while the other is expecting regular cards, letters, and candle-lit dinners. It seems men and women often have different concepts of romance. This is so common,…
When you’re clear on what you want, it appears
In the past year I attended both the Toronto and San Jose Film Festivals. I loved screening yet-to-be-released films followed by live commentary from the writers, directors and stars. I delighted in the experience so much, I thought, “I’d like to be with someone in the movie business. It would be fun to hang out…
Rocket Man
I’ve become fond of a man online who blows things up for a living. Tiny things. Miniatures. For the movies. And he’s won an Oscar for his demolition efforts. Isn’t this nearly every man’s childhood dream? To make a living destroying things? How fun! He specializes in igniting things. He says he “paints with fire.”…
Online dating time equivalent to dog years
Sometimes you hit it off with someone online and you exchange a flurry of emails. That is if you ignore the advice in The Rules for Online Dating. Authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneide tell women never to respond to an email from a potential suitor before 24 hours pass. Well, I’ve ignored The Rules….
Are you a hoochie mama?
“What’s that?” you ask. The term is commonly used to denote a loose or crass woman. However, because I have a dear friend who uses this as an enduring term for me, I like to think of it differently. My definition is a woman who is secure in her sexuality, comfortable flirting and playing. She…
Sleepover do’s and don’ts
“Sleepover? For adults?” you may be asking. “What do you mean?” Two-person pajama party. Duo slumber party. Couple cuddle fest. Jammie jam. No-sex sleepover. It can happen early in the relationship. You’re not ready to have sex, so you only cuddle and snooze with your new sweetie all night. Sleepovers are living on the edge….
I’m glad dating is hard
I bet you’re thinking, “That’s an odd approach.” At first blush, it sounds incongruent. But let me explain. My dear friend, the late Art Berg, was one of the best motivational speakers in the world until his death at age 39 in 2002. He wrote several books, was named 1992 Young Entrepreneur of the Year…
Being present to the presents
My nearly divorced 48-year-old neighbor said she was inspired by my philosophy expressed in this blog. She asked how I could still be positive and upbeat after going out with 68 men, none of whom was “the one.” I told her my philosophy is “never a wasted evening.” In my dating journey, I’ve met some…