“How many sexual partners have you had?”
This is a deadly question to ask someone you're dating. Whatever he says will be wrong. If he's had fewer than you think is appropriate, you'll think he's inexperienced. If…
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Getting a man to fall for you
My friend Jeff Mac addressed an interesting question from one of his Manslations.com readers. She asked for the trick to getting a man to fall hopelessly and helplessly in love…
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What’s in a name?
Lately, I've been contacted by a number of men with formal names: Patrick not Pat, Charles not Charlie or Chuck, Richard not Dick or Rick or Rich. I've also noticed…
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Are you drawn to deep-voiced men?
Another useless study was recently released that announced, "Women favor men with deep voices." Robin Thicke and Michael Jackson, sorry! It's well known that many women are attracted to men…
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Can too much spoiling be bad?
A man contacted me whose online name is the equivalent of Wuss4U. I laughed, as I thought it must be a joke. I read his profile: "I seek an aggressive…
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Entering the Land of Testosterone
I'm experimenting with trying to meet men in the "real" world. I'm inserting myself into places where gobs of possible potential suitors gather. Today I entered the Land of Testosterone.…
Social-circle accountability — a missing link in online dating
We've heard -- and sometimes experienced -- the horror stories of midlife dating. When we think that middle-aged men and women should behave like adults they flummox us with their…
Avoid frivolous talk on a date
Frivolous: unworthy of serious attention; trivial; of little value. One of the consistent complaints men make about women is their incessant talking. And it's just not that there is no…
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Give yourself more dating happiness
My friends at LifeTwo.com asked me to participate as one of five columnists in exercises for their "Happiness Week." I've written about happiness in dating a few times: Do you…
Should you state your dating goal even before meeting?
I just listened to the 4-CD seminar, "In Sync with the Opposite Sex™," with Alison Armstrong. A close friend has attended a number of her seminars and highly recommends them,…
What’s your need for affiliation?
A friend shared with me the concept of people having different needs for affiliation -- how much "people contact" they need. As you would guess, some have a very low…