When should you disclose any, er, unusual preferences?
I was once contacted by a man who said in his profile that he was "slightly kinky." When I asked what he meant exactly, he said he’d explain in person.…
Posted inDating after 40 Moving on graciously
Gently telling him you want to be friends
A DG reader sent this question: Any ideas on how to gently let a good man go? I had several dates with a kind, intelligent, respectful man. We had much…
Advice from sister-surrogate sages
Having lunch with two friends, both 16 years my senior, we were discussing relationships. They asked about my love life, always wanting an update on the soap opera of my…
Even eye candy isn’t good if you’re allergic
Last night, a date and I went to a Halloween party. The room was filled with scantily clad, hard-bodied beautiful people in provocative costumes. I tried to fit in with…
Are you sending off “ready” vibes?
Talking to a single friend about her dating life, she said, "I'm really not ready, but I do have a profile posted." "Why do you have a profile posted if…
The zest test
An attractive, successful, intelligent, sexy 48-year-old man told me on our first date that he'd only had two other dates in the last 3.5 years. I asked why. "I'm not…
Bank of Grace account overdrawn
You met a guy and you seemed to hit it off really well. You saw him a few times. Lots of flirting, which led to hand holding and even kissing.…
Are you holding on when you should let go?
Have you been in (or perhaps are in) a relationship that the other person isn't as into? It doesn't have to be a committed relationship, as this can happen even…
Dating’s emotional roller coaster
Your experience dating your current guy swings from elation to disappointment, glee to frustration, fun to hassle. But the good far outweighs the bad, so you stick with it. When…
Is he collecting data on how to make you happy?
I briefly dated a man who interspersed into our conversations a myriad of questions about my preferences. He asked about my favorite flower, gemstone, color, fabric, musical artist, book genre,…
Posted inDating after 40 From fear to frolic: sex
Sexual desire is alive and well in daters over 50
Alert reader Paulette sent a link to this article, "Sex, Lust And Passion Top Baby Boomer Love Expectations" for us to mull over. According to a study conducted by Wanobe.com,…