It’s been said ad nauseam that dating is like job hunting. The online profile is the application, the first emails and call the screening process, the first date the initial interview, the second and subsequent dates are additional interviews. Following this metaphor, I guess you only get “offered the job” when you decide to be…
Dating after 40
“I don’t want to be hurt”
A man I met online shared this in an early email. His ex-wife cheated on him and he hasn’t dated since his divorce seven years ago. He said it was because he didn’t want to get hurt again. I explained that nearly all relationships include some hurt at some point. Maybe it happens because of…
“All I seem to attract are players”
I discreetly turned to see who made this statement and saw an average-looking, middleaged woman at the table behind me at Starbucks talking to a gal pal about dating. She was wearing a low-cut camisole emphasizing 3 inches of cleavage and black bra straps showing underneath the spaghetti straps. I made a snap assessment linking…
Guys: Need your help translating
Gentleman readers: On behalf of my women readers, I want to offer my last date as a case study. I need your help translating this message. Yesterday’s posting talked about that date, which by my assessment went well. Not the best first date, but good. Here’s Mr. New Guy’s response to my thank-you email: Last…
Flower power
If you’ve read Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 for long, you will know I am an incurable romantic. In fact, my YahooPersonals “love profile” assessment labeled me as “Romantic,” which it describes as: You want and expect it all —- a lasting connection with someone on every level —- mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual….
Woo-guru tricks
Readers, you know how low I’ll stoop — I mean, diligent I can be — when it comes to researching dating relationships. Well, I won’t stoop to speed dating, but you know I’ve read bad, but popular books, watched 1950’s marital advice films, listened to dating CDs of dubious value, and dated 77 — soon…
Acknowledge the good stuff
In May, I wrote about my friend Mike Robbins’ work using appreciation to deepen relationships at work and home. (See “The power of appreciation in dating.”) His book, Focus on the Good Stuff: The Power of Appreciation, is finally published, and he’s doing a special drive to get on Amazon’s bestseller list tomorrow. If you…
Do you both have the same dating rhythm?
I had an epiphany today. It began with my being flummoxed that I hadn’t heard from Dreamboat after our dinner date Wed. where we decided we wanted to see each other again. We’d emailed a brief “had a great time with you” the next day and that was the last I’ve heard from him. Perhaps…
Is 21st Century dating unnatural?
Speed dating. Internet dating. Meeting for the express purpose to see if there’s a romantic spark. Some people say this is unnatural. When we date this way, we base our decision to see each other again on very little information, mostly physical. Even after days, weeks, or months of emails, texts, IMs and calls, it…
How do you know he’s interested in you?
According to my blog reports, this is a phrase many people search when finding this blog. I only wish I had the answer. It is much easier to identify how he shows he’s not interested, as I detailed in “Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date.” But knowing he is interested? That’s…
Is your sense of humor stunting your dating?
In many online profiles, both genders say they want a mate who possess a good sense of humor. But what really does that mean? For many, it means the man makes a funny (or almost funny) comment and the woman laughs. But what if the woman is the funny (or funnier) one? If you are…