This is a deadly question to ask someone you’re dating. Whatever he says will be wrong. If he’s had fewer than you think is appropriate, you’ll think he’s inexperienced. If he’s had more — perhaps way more — than you think is acceptable, you’ll think he’s a slut. And what if he asks you? Same…
Dating after 40
Have you watched your sweetie at work?
When a man greets you for the first time with “My, my, my,” you know it’s going to be a good date! Thus began my dinner date last night with guy #82, who we’ll call Mr. Radio Guy since he is the headliner DJ at a R&B station. Even before meeting him, we clicked with…
Getting a man to fall for you
My friend Jeff Mac addressed an interesting question from one of his Manslations.com readers. She asked for the trick to getting a man to fall hopelessly and helplessly in love with you. Jeff had some good advice. And since I’m always willing to horn in on my fellow blogger’s questions, my answer is to paraphrase…
Requiem of a relationship
Today would have been my twenty-second wedding anniversary. I think it is important to reminisce about long-term relationships gone awry as one would at a memorial of a difficult person. Not dwell on the downs, but the ups. Paint a picture of what was added to your life as a result, not what was stripped….
What’s in a name?
Lately, I’ve been contacted by a number of men with formal names: Patrick not Pat, Charles not Charlie or Chuck, Richard not Dick or Rick or Rich. I’ve also noticed that people who use the formal version of their name are different than those who offer the informal version. Since I use the formal version…
Are you drawn to deep-voiced men?
Another useless study was recently released that announced, “Women favor men with deep voices.” Robin Thicke and Michael Jackson, sorry! It’s well known that many women are attracted to men with deep, Barry White-like voices. Part of my ex’s allure was his resonant, radio-announcer voice (he had a radio show for a few years). Another…
Can too much spoiling be bad?
A man contacted me whose online name is the equivalent of Wuss4U. I laughed, as I thought it must be a joke. I read his profile: “I seek an aggressive woman who wants to take charge and call the shots. I am meek and mild, shy. I need a strong, forceful woman to dominate me….
Entering the Land of Testosterone
I’m experimenting with trying to meet men in the “real” world. I’m inserting myself into places where gobs of possible potential suitors gather. Today I entered the Land of Testosterone. “Where is that?” you ask. A professional football game. A friend had an extra ticket so I attended our local team’s game. I thought this…
Cruising at festivals
Our neighborhood is hosting a city-wide Italian festival today, so I decided to use it as an opportunity to cruise for men. After all, we’ve been discussing how hanging out where people you are likely to like in the “real” world (vs. Internet) is a better option. So I wanted to experiment to see if…
Social-circle accountability — a missing link in online dating
We’ve heard — and sometimes experienced — the horror stories of midlife dating. When we think that middle-aged men and women should behave like adults they flummox us with their adolescent behaviors. Many of these bad boy/girl stories come from meeting folks through Internet dating sites. If you’ve been around for more than a day,…
Avoid frivolous talk on a date
Frivolous: unworthy of serious attention; trivial; of little value. One of the consistent complaints men make about women is their incessant talking. And it’s just not that there is no silence. But women more than men talk and talk and talk about things of no consequence to the men. In fact, she will go into…