Speed dating. Internet dating. Meeting for the express purpose to see if there’s a romantic spark. Some people say this is unnatural. When we date this way, we base our decision to see each other again on very little information, mostly physical. Even after days, weeks, or months of emails, texts, IMs and calls, it…
Dating chemistry
How do you know he’s interested in you?
According to my blog reports, this is a phrase many people search when finding this blog. I only wish I had the answer. It is much easier to identify how he shows he’s not interested, as I detailed in “Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date.” But knowing he is interested? That’s…
Should you reconnect with a former love interest?
In “Boomerang boyfriends” I talked about how former beaus — or potential beaus — resurface in my life. If we parted on good terms, I enjoy seeing a guy again to catch up, but so far I’ve not rekindled any former love interest. Tomorrow night I have an opportunity to see if this pattern changes….
Tips for men
In his column last week, my friend who writes “Male Call” for the San José Mercury News gave practical tips on how men can be more appealing to women. At the end of the column he asked women to send their suggestions. Wanting to be a helpful pal, here’s what I sent him, and he…
Book of women’s fantasy men doing chores
Porn for Women is a book designed to redefine what women think of as porn. It is a fun photo book featuring hunky men doing what many women dream about — housework, cooking, listening, asking for directions — all while clothed. At least mostly clothed. There are some shots of the four cute male models…
What women need from a man before having sex
Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 co-authors Gloria MacDonald and Thelma Beam interviewed midlife women and asked how they knew they wanted to have sex with a specific man. Filtering through the answers, they came up with some commonalities for the women’s description of chemistry, a term that seems elusive. The components…
The sting of rejection
Unless you have really thick skin, nearly all rejection has a little sting. Even from someone you aren’t really interested in! If you email a guy and he responds, even with a nice “Thank you, but we’re not a match,” that has a mosquito-size sting. You’re over it in a nanosecond. You might not even…
What to wear to build rapport?
I have a date with a new guy tonight — an advertising agency owner who lives in a nearby laid-back resort town. We had a fun, interesting first conversation two days ago and he asked me to join him for dinner at a midrange restaurant. Now I must figure out what to wear. I think…
Who are you magnetizing into your life?
Some people believe they attract people into their life. Within reason, I’m one of them. I don’t believe that I attract every person with whom I come in contact, but I do think I’ve had important people come to me, if even for just a few minutes. When that’s happened, there’s been a lesson for…
Is he assertive enough for you?
In women’s dating stories of budding relationships gone awry, there are two common themes: The man was too aggressive too early. The man wasn’t assertive enough to say what he needed, or make requests for minor modifications of adaptable behaviors, so he went poof. I think #1 is pretty self-explanatory — he got too physical…
“It feels so comfortable”
A gal pal described her relationship with her new beau with this common phrase. We interpret this as it feels right. If it weren’t right, it wouldn’t feel comfortable, right? There are many reasons why being with him could feel comfortable. Perhaps he’s easy going. Maybe he possesses characteristics you find appealing. Possibly he’s got…