Dating: A self-designed personal-growth workshop
Maybe you're like me and have attended a lot of seminars. Perhaps some of these have been personal-growth workshops. After taking a bunch of them, you realize you can design…
Even eye candy isn’t good if you’re allergic
Last night, a date and I went to a Halloween party. The room was filled with scantily clad, hard-bodied beautiful people in provocative costumes. I tried to fit in with…
Are you sending off “ready” vibes?
Talking to a single friend about her dating life, she said, "I'm really not ready, but I do have a profile posted." "Why do you have a profile posted if…
The zest test
An attractive, successful, intelligent, sexy 48-year-old man told me on our first date that he'd only had two other dates in the last 3.5 years. I asked why. "I'm not…
Bank of Grace account overdrawn
You met a guy and you seemed to hit it off really well. You saw him a few times. Lots of flirting, which led to hand holding and even kissing.…
Dating’s emotional roller coaster
Your experience dating your current guy swings from elation to disappointment, glee to frustration, fun to hassle. But the good far outweighs the bad, so you stick with it. When…
The faux vacation fling
You had an instant, magical, mutual connection. On the first date you both expressed how attracted you were to the other, and how much you enjoyed your time together. He…
Jumping to conclusions
We'd been seeing each other for a few weeks. We'd hit it off really well and expressed our mutual liking. We'd decided to get together Friday evening for something casual.…
“How many sexual partners have you had?”
This is a deadly question to ask someone you're dating. Whatever he says will be wrong. If he's had fewer than you think is appropriate, you'll think he's inexperienced. If…
Cruising at festivals
Our neighborhood is hosting a city-wide Italian festival today, so I decided to use it as an opportunity to cruise for men. After all, we've been discussing how hanging out…
Are you open to receiving?
Do you think of yourself as feminine? When I hear that word, I think of the terms usually used to define the word: delicacy, prettiness, sensitivity, gentleness, compassion. I conjure…