Have you been inundated with the Super Bowl pre-game activity options? You could easily devote the whole weekend to Super Bowl shows if you wanted. In scanning the various proceeding, it reminded me of a conversation I had recently with a single gal pal. We were talking about how important first impressions are in dating….
First-rate first dates
The trial kiss
In sales, when you check for buying interest you use a trial close. Something like, “If you were to purchase this, which color/size/model would you like most?” Or, “If you were to go ahead, how many units would you initially order?” I’ve noticed some guys use a “trial kiss” to check for a woman’s “buying…
Men behaving badly
I rarely talk about “bad” dates, because if a date doesn’t work out, it just wasn’t meant to be. No use lingering on what didn’t work or what an unpleasant experience it was. When people hear I’ve written a book about midlife dating (now in my literary agent’s hands to sell), many immediately say, “I…
“When can I meet your kids?”
I have never asked a guy this. However, a woman recently shared that she asks this on the first date. Additionally she asks, “When would you be comfortable meeting mine, and each others’ friends?” Even though I don’t have kids, I know how protective most people are of theirs and introducing them to people they’re…
When do you tell your date about irritants?
There seem to be several camps on this: Immediately when the annoyance happens, even on the first date. Say something so he can modify his behavior. No matter how small the irritation, you should say something when it happens. Not on the first date, unless the behavior is egregious (blowing his nose in the cloth…
Rocket Man
I’ve become fond of a man online who blows things up for a living. Tiny things. Miniatures. For the movies. And he’s won an Oscar for his demolition efforts. Isn’t this nearly every man’s childhood dream? To make a living destroying things? How fun! He specializes in igniting things. He says he “paints with fire.”…
Control freak or detail oriented?
In the 18 months between when my ex left and I started dating, I had plenty of time to consider what I wanted in my next man. One of my realizations was I planned 99% of outings in my marriage. I wanted a man who would take the time to plan, as I was burnt…
“I only want to date someone I would marry”
A newly divorced friend was intrigued by my philosophy about dating so many men. She said, “I just couldn’t do that. I don’t want to date anyone I wouldn’t see myself marrying.” She is not alone. This is many women’s philosophy. She says she is too busy to spend time with someone she doesn’t think…
Cell phone can disconnect a date
I’m dismayed that I even have to write this post. After all, I date midlife (37-64 year-old), successful, educated men. You would think they’d have enough common sense and common courtesy to know what to do — and not do — with their cell phones on a date. But some apparently don’t, as I’ve been…
“POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd” makes you outstanding in the dating scene
My friend, bestselling author Sam Horn, has a new book out, POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd. At first glance, you’d think POP! is strictly a business book and says nothing of value for daters. However, that’s not the case. There’s a lot in the book you can apply to dating. Over brunch a few…
Clues a guy is just looking for a booty call
I have a new friend, the writer of “Male Call,” a syndicated newspaper columnist on “Advice From a Guy.” I asked him a question I thought might interest you. We had this exchange: DG: What are signs a guy is just looking for a booty call on the first date? MC: Wait a sec —…