Hello — goodbye: How to say no thanks after meeting
One of the hardest parts of dating is telling your date that it isn't a match so you don't encourage him to pursue you. It is easiest to do in…
Is that you? Pictures are just a rough facsimile of the real thing
When I was first dating, I wouldn't respond to someone if their picture wasn't appealing, even if they sent an articulate, fun email. I also turned down any contact who…
Guys make a great first impression with a small gift
The other day I had a first date with a guy who brought me a present -- a recent bestselling book he thought I'd like. It was a great gift,…
Tracking your date’s score
A guy begins with 100 units. He can add to these units by doing good things (e.g., calling when he says he will, being chivalrous, suggesting activities he thinks I’d…
Dating as a job interview
Early on, I scoffed when I was told men see dating as a job interview. How could finding love be similar to finding a job? But then a guy recited…
Ambivalence
Ambivalence is the bane of the dating world. I've had plenty of pleasant dates with guys who were smart, educated, successful, attractive yet I felt if I saw him again,…
Posted inDating chemistry First-rate first dates
Good conversation is the foundation of great dating
One of the things that has stood out for me in interactions with the last four potential suitors is that guys (at least the ones I've encountered) don't know how…
Becoming smitten with the fantasy
I've been surprised when men become smitten with me without yet meeting me. Perhaps we've had some interesting emails and phone calls, and they begin professing their love -- or…
Posted inDating after 40 First-rate first dates
How do you greet him?
When I first started dating, I asked my dating friends, "How do you greet someone upon first meeting?" Shaking hands seems so businesslike. Doing nothing seems cold and aloof. I've…