Last week a fellow globetrotting gal pal and I were sitting by the pool in Siem Reap, Cambodia during a 2-week trip to SE Asia. We were comparing notes about our recent dating lives. Or lack thereof. And our frustration at finding a sweetheart who had the means, time and desire to travel, and who…
The great awakening
It began 9 years ago today. I call it “The Great Awakening.” Two days earlier we’d returned from a romantic week in a favorite city. We held hands walking in the rain-cleansed park, enjoyed restaurant meals and sight-seeing together, had laughs with friends, and had passionate nights. He was intermittently moody during the vacation, sometimes…
Why online dating is like a sushi bar
You sit comfortably and watch the dishes go by. You pick what looks appealing. If you’re curious, you look more carefully and read whatever description is provided. If an interesting one slips by without your snagging it, soon another option appears right in front of you. You don’t even have to move. In fact, more…
Congruency is the best policy
His profile listed his name as “Micheal” (sic). But his first email was signed “Gerald.” When I asked him about the discrepancy, he admitted his name was, indeed, Micheal. He said, “I just didn’t feel it was right to go ahead with my real name at first.” Didn’t he realize everyone he contacted would see…
Looking for male equivalent of unicorn
You’ve heard such a being exists. But you have yet to encounter one. Not that you haven’t tried. Relentlessly. You’ve hunted in the places you’ve heard they frequent. To no avail. You mean them no harm. You would lavish one with love, affection and devotion if you were just to find one.
Sexy at any age
I feel a special connection with Susan Sarandon. Not that I look anything like her nor do I share her movie-star lifestyle. I met her when I was doing some work at Miraval, Oprah’s favorite spa, in the hills north of Tucson, AZ. She was there for a week with her daughter. We chatted a…
Remodeling for romance
When one has been single and dating around for a while, it’s easy to make life choices around that single status. When you don’t have a sweetie, it’s hard to think in terms of “us” and “we” since that isn’t your current situation. Yet if you are actively seeking a partner you want to make…
Cold feet
After swimming in the dating pool for a while, you begin to wonder why some people even say they are “swimming” too. They behave in ways that show they are still on the pond banks, even though they’re acting like they are in the pool. What do these behaviors look like?
Such a deal!
I sent this picture and to a mattress-salesman friend — who’s also a single hunk. I suggested this offer might help him sell more beds. But aside from my smart alecness, it made me wonder if men saw this exchange similar to dinner and a dalliance. If the man buys the goods (lunch), he then…
False start
When dating, it’s common to get one’s hopes up at the beginnings of a new connection. If things go right at the start, we’re encouraged that the relationship will blossom. But what if there are hiccups near the beginning? Giving grace is admirable. However, what if there are too many to continue with that forgiving…
Valentine’s Day — celebration or curse?
It’s upon us again. Every year in the gloom of winter we fight the unwelcome bulges resulting from over-indulging in holiday treats. We trudge through rain, sleet and/or snow to our commitments, praying Spring will come early as relief. Just as the world could not seem harder or bleaker, it sneaks up on us and…