I am a bit of a profession snob, tending to eschew men who I don’t feel have a similar job status. I’m not proud of it, but it’s true. I’ve tried dating blue collar men, and I’ve never found it worked well. So you’ll be surprised to learn that I had a first date with…
Don’t let extra pounds slow you down
A reader wrote: “I am overweight — not morbidly obese but overweight. I mention in my profile that I am a bit overweight. I have yet to progress from one initial email with anyone. I feel as if it is impossible to get a date with anyone when you are overweight — am I wrong?…
Dry spells
There are lulls in dating life when you have no active prospects. You’ve moved to the “friends” category anyone who’s contacted you in the past. No one interesting has appeared on the horizon. For most daters, this is their most frequent experience, lingering, perhaps checking online sites for new arrivals. But either no one contacts…
My online dating research
I’d read data that said 50% of men listed on dating sites never get one contact from women. Yet my experience is that men rarely respond to my being the one who makes the initial contact, or for the few who do, it’s nearly all “thanks but no thanks.” So I decided to set up…
Dating in the time of narcissism
I like to think of myself as a generally positive person, but I have my pet peeves. Self-absorption is one of them, although I’m guessing I can act in ways that seem self-centered to others. Over the last few years, I’ve noticed others acting in ways that seem narcissistic. The visitors to the church next…
Rekindling a school-days sweetheart
Have you ever daydreamed about an old sweetheart from decades ago? What’s he up to now? Is he single? What’s he look like? If you connected, would the spark still be there? My cousin reconnected with his high school love during their 40th reunion. They had remained close after they broke up in high school,…
Sex, ED, and the single midlife woman
A long-time reader asked me to address a sensitive, yet not uncommon midlife dating issue — middle-aged sex and erectile dysfunction. He asks, “How do you handle an attempt at sex that doesn’t work? How do you decide if this is a man you want to continue to see or is this a red flag?”…
The fix-up
Weeks ago my friend mentioned his brother was coming into town for a few days to celebrate my friend’s birthday. My pal said he’d like his brother to meet me. “You’ll like him” he declared. Since I like my pal a lot, I thought if his brother is like him, yes I would enjoy that….
Addressing kissing mismatch
Hi Dating Goddess, I’m dating someone I’m very attracted to, and we have lots of good chemistry on a variety of levels. The only issue I feel the need to question is the way she kisses. When I move in close to kiss her, she appears to retreat within herself and becomes passively accepting. She…
Online dating behaviors studied
A recent article shared conclusions from researchers at UC Berkeley’s School of Information. The paper “Self-presentation and Deception in Online Dating” found pretty much what we’ve known all along. For example:
Beyond face value
In midlife dating, we repeatedly hear, “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.” At this point in our lives most of us have wrinkles, sags and perhaps even some scars or skin discolorations. Yet it takes a lot, usually, to look beyond the surface image. So what do you do when someone has a facial…