I’ve noticed some men start with sugary sweet talk even before a face-to-face meeting. Some of them try to soften me up, thinking I’ll then be an easy mark on the first date for a roll in the hay. But others don’t hint at sex, and say sweet, romantic things in email or on the…
The dangers of IM flirting
I’m told some people found the love of their life through an online dating chat room. Others have shared they got to know they beloved long distance through IMs. While IMs can be a way to get to know each other quickly, it can also create a false intimacy. I rarely open my IM application…
This just in: Study shows men go for women with good looks
Duh. Someone paid good money to fund this study? Peter M. Todd, Ph.D. and his research team from the cognitive science program at Indiana University, Bloomington, reported this earth-shattering finding in a recent edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. They’ve come to this monumental conclusion with fewer than four dozen subjects. Their…
Relationship Resumé
It’s been said ad nauseam that dating is like job hunting. The online profile is the application, the first emails and call the screening process, the first date the initial interview, the second and subsequent dates are additional interviews. Following this metaphor, I guess you only get “offered the job” when you decide to be…
“I don’t want to be hurt”
A man I met online shared this in an early email. His ex-wife cheated on him and he hasn’t dated since his divorce seven years ago. He said it was because he didn’t want to get hurt again. I explained that nearly all relationships include some hurt at some point. Maybe it happens because of…
“All I seem to attract are players”
I discreetly turned to see who made this statement and saw an average-looking, middleaged woman at the table behind me at Starbucks talking to a gal pal about dating. She was wearing a low-cut camisole emphasizing 3 inches of cleavage and black bra straps showing underneath the spaghetti straps. I made a snap assessment linking…
Guys: Need your help translating
Gentleman readers: On behalf of my women readers, I want to offer my last date as a case study. I need your help translating this message. Yesterday’s posting talked about that date, which by my assessment went well. Not the best first date, but good. Here’s Mr. New Guy’s response to my thank-you email: Last…
Flower power
If you’ve read Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 for long, you will know I am an incurable romantic. In fact, my YahooPersonals “love profile” assessment labeled me as “Romantic,” which it describes as: You want and expect it all —- a lasting connection with someone on every level —- mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual….
Woo-guru tricks
Readers, you know how low I’ll stoop — I mean, diligent I can be — when it comes to researching dating relationships. Well, I won’t stoop to speed dating, but you know I’ve read bad, but popular books, watched 1950’s marital advice films, listened to dating CDs of dubious value, and dated 77 — soon…
Acknowledge the good stuff
In May, I wrote about my friend Mike Robbins’ work using appreciation to deepen relationships at work and home. (See “The power of appreciation in dating.”) His book, Focus on the Good Stuff: The Power of Appreciation, is finally published, and he’s doing a special drive to get on Amazon’s bestseller list tomorrow. If you…
Do you both have the same dating rhythm?
I had an epiphany today. It began with my being flummoxed that I hadn’t heard from Dreamboat after our dinner date Wed. where we decided we wanted to see each other again. We’d emailed a brief “had a great time with you” the next day and that was the last I’ve heard from him. Perhaps…