Shopping for Mr. Right…because you don’t have time for another Mr. Wrong by Marsha Petrie Sue My friend Marsha Petrie Sue wrote this 125-page book based on her experience — and frustrations — looking for a partner after her first marriage ended. She illustrates her lessons learned with her own stories as well as those…
Failed relationships’ blessings
A friend and I were discussing failed relationships. She said, “It depends on your definition of ‘failed.’ Not all relationships are meant to be long term. Sometimes you are pulled to be with someone for a short time to learn the lessons each of you has to offer the other, then move on.” I saw…
Have you done inner work?
DG reader Tim asked me to address the following, which applies to both genders: I’m 41 and been dating 3 years. Most of the woman I meet assume that they can go from a divorce to another long-term relationship and never work on themselves before doing so. The longer someone is in a bad relationship…
Happy Dating Independence Day
I don’t think the US government will change the name of this day, but I think we can add to the meaning of Independence Day to extend to a healthy philosophy about dating. It could mean that you are declaring your independence from dating. You’re going to stop hunting, remove yourself from dating sites and…
Is he assertive enough for you?
In women’s dating stories of budding relationships gone awry, there are two common themes: The man was too aggressive too early. The man wasn’t assertive enough to say what he needed, or make requests for minor modifications of adaptable behaviors, so he went poof. I think #1 is pretty self-explanatory — he got too physical…
Do you put your dates through tests?
Do you make men jump through some hoops when dating you? What do I mean? Some women will only date a man who: makes the first contact. treats her to dinner at a nice restaurant within the first few dates. sends or brings her flowers within the first few dates. calls her once a day….
“It feels so comfortable”
A gal pal described her relationship with her new beau with this common phrase. We interpret this as it feels right. If it weren’t right, it wouldn’t feel comfortable, right? There are many reasons why being with him could feel comfortable. Perhaps he’s easy going. Maybe he possesses characteristics you find appealing. Possibly he’s got…
Marketing 101 for dating
Today I was strolling down the fresh men aisle at my favorite dating site. No one was enticing enough to pick off the shelf and examine more closely. I wasn’t even drawn to read any labels (profiles). What was wrong? Lack of marketing. With very few exceptions, online daters don’t know how to get people…
Signs of manipulation
DG reader Bigi asked me to address the topic of manipulation. Specifically, how to tell if a man is trying to manipulate you. She says, “I am so gullible and really want to trust so I tend to trust the wrong fellows because I just don’t realize how I have been manipulated.” While some of…
Are you set in your ways?
A complaint I hear from midlife daters is that others they date seem set in their ways. This can become evident on the first date or it may take a while. But for those who this describes, it eventually comes out. It might be an unwillingness to try a new cuisine, refusal to travel abroad,…
Stood up!
Have you ever been stood up for a date? Whether you have already or regrettably, may be in the future, it’s useful to examine your options. Here’s how I explored mine. A new potential suitor (#77) and I arranged for a dinner first date last night. He called two days ago to set a time….