Porn for Women is a book designed to redefine what women think of as porn. It is a fun photo book featuring hunky men doing what many women dream about — housework, cooking, listening, asking for directions — all while clothed. At least mostly clothed. There are some shots of the four cute male models…
Does he treat you like his ex?
The question is really, “Does the guy you’re dating treat you like he treated his ex wife?” Not the way he currently treats his ex wife, as he could treat her better or worse than when they were together. But does he behave the way he did when they were together? Let me give you…
The dating profile fudge factor
I may have led you astray. In “You are (probably) more attractive than you think you are!,” I based my comments on the observation that most midlife women I know think of themselves as less attractive than others rate them. And men tend to overstate their attractiveness. But a study reported in “Freakonomics: A Rogue…
What women need from a man before having sex
Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 co-authors Gloria MacDonald and Thelma Beam interviewed midlife women and asked how they knew they wanted to have sex with a specific man. Filtering through the answers, they came up with some commonalities for the women’s description of chemistry, a term that seems elusive. The components…
Dating data a dose of reality
Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 by Gloria MacDonald and Thelma Beam I found this to be one of the most interesting books on midlife dating I’ve read in a long while. It is co-written by a matchmaker specializing in people over 40 (Gloria MacDonald), and a couples therapist (Thelma Beam). They…
The sting of rejection
Unless you have really thick skin, nearly all rejection has a little sting. Even from someone you aren’t really interested in! If you email a guy and he responds, even with a nice “Thank you, but we’re not a match,” that has a mosquito-size sting. You’re over it in a nanosecond. You might not even…
What to wear to build rapport?
I have a date with a new guy tonight — an advertising agency owner who lives in a nearby laid-back resort town. We had a fun, interesting first conversation two days ago and he asked me to join him for dinner at a midrange restaurant. Now I must figure out what to wear. I think…
Timing is everything
You know the old adage that the secret to comedy is timing? The same is true in dating. We seek the mate of our dreams. So we date. And we date. And we date. We get frustrated. “Why can’t I find a great guy?” we ask ourselves. We get tired of going out on dates…
Euphemisms R us
In dating profiles common phrases are used that are really euphemisms — nice ways to say what isn’t totally true. While I know you’d never use any of these duplicitously, others do. Some of these I’ve learned the hard way, as I am generally trusting and believe people at their word. But I’ve found that…
Eureka! I have found the answer
Yes, ladies, after much research, I think I’ve found the answer to how to make a guy fall for you. This has been right in front of our noses for many, many years, and some women have already figured this out. How could I (and perhaps you) be so obtuse? The secret has been flaunted…
Why do midlife daters have sex?
No doubt you’ve heard of the study released a few days ago from University of Texas at Austin psychology researchers David Buss, Ph.D. and Cindy Meston, Ph.D. on why human beings have sex. However, upon closer examination, I see that the study was based mostly on undergraduate students (1500 of the 1900 subjects were students;…