I feel like a doctor making her hospital rounds checking on patients. But instead of looking in on Mr. Hernandez after his gallbladder surgery, or Mrs. Fukumoto after her hemorrhoid removal, I check on D1ForU, DreamBeau, LoverBoy1951. I go from Match.com to YahooPersonals to Chemistry.com to SoulMate to see if I have any emails or…
Failed phone audition
We’d flirted online a few times many months ago, then stopped. I can’t remember why. We started again last week. Last night he called. This psychology professor included these tidbits in his 45-minute monologue: He told me in great detail of his recent tooth extraction — his third — and his options for implants or…
“Why Men Leave Home”
Last night I watched the 1951 B-film “Why Men Leave Home.” I found it on the Blockbuster site and was interested to see what messages women were given a half-century ago about beauty and relationships, and how these messages have changed — or not. The plot in a nutshell: A “dowdy” woman puts housework ahead…
Why men disappear when it gets serious
I’m reading my new best friend 🙂 Gina Barreca‘s book, Perfect Husbands (& Other Fairy Tales): Demystifying Marriage, Men and Romance. Dr. Barreca is an academic who can make all that stuffy research come alive through her gift of humor and insightful writing. This book tackles understanding the perception of marriage and the evolving roles…
The dating hobby
Have you found yourself feeling that dating is a hobby? And just like some hobbies, you do it more or less often than other things you enjoy. I find myself immersing myself in some hobbies, then totally abandoning them for long stretches. And just like belly dancing, scuba diving or parachute jumping, you need specialized…
“Are you man enough to be my man?”
This can be a common thought for powerful, successful, midlife dating women. It was expressed by DG reader “Diamond” in a question to me: I’ve been in business my whole life. A friend’s mother shared this advice just prior to my running off to meet what I thought was the man of my dreams in…
Avoiding a trip to Abilene in dating
I have nothing against Abilene. I’ve been to Abilene, KS and it was a nice town, home to the Eisenhower Museum. I’ve not been to Abilene, TX. But I’m really talking about the metaphor described in the management education film called “The Abilene Paradox.” In the film, adult family members are visiting their parents and…
Cruising for a date takes on new meaning
Yesterday Sprint announced a new mobile “friend finding” capability. This feature uses Loopt’s GPS technology to notify you of your friends’ whereabouts. (You set up permission for who you want to see where you are.) I imagine it won’t take long to marry this to Webdate Mobile, which enables access to dating profiles, chat and…
Treasures can come in dented packages
If you received a gift in a Tiffany’s box but the corner was mushed, would you be unhappy? If you were given a 2-pound box of your favorite Godiva with the top indented, would you be disappointed? No, of course not. Because you know it’s what’s inside that really matters, not the packaging. Many midlife…
The worst two words in dating
Here are a few examples of two-words phrases you don’t really want to hear while dating: Comb over Hair plugs Spousal reconciliation I’m married It’s over None of these would be music to your ears. Some of these are worse than the phrase I want to focus on: “I’ve decided…” These two words are…
Review of “How to Behave: Dating and Sex”
How to Behave: Dating and Sex: A Guide to Modern Manners for the Socially Challenged by Caroline Tiger This gift-size 222-page book is full of lists. For every topic (Turning Down an Unwanted Suitor, Disarming the Over-Toucher, Avoiding Your Date’s Bad Breath), she lists a handful of tips. Some are common sense (never hit on…