I’m often asked what makes dating in midlife different than dating in your 20’s and 30’s — at least for women. While I know the following are gross generalizations and there are always exceptions, here’s what I’ve come up with: Having more/any biological kids is past. Most people are finished with the early part of…
Is his diet a problem for you?
Or is yours a problem for him? In past postings, I’ve explored how the way a man eats can be problematic (eats salad with his fingers, chews with his mouth full, picks up pork chops with his hands in a nice restaurant). But we’ve not discussed how what he eats — or doesn’t eat —…
The money talk
My 63-year-old gal pal has been dating her 70-year-old boyfriend a few years. They recently returned from a fabulous vacation. I asked her how they worked out expense sharing. She said since he makes significantly more than she does, he pays for hotel, dinners, and other large expenses. She buys breakfasts and simple lunches. She…
How are you about receiving gifts from your guy?
It’s my birthday! Since my sweetie’s work week ends at noon today he’s flying in this afternoon to take me on a dinner/dance cruise and spend his “weekend” with me. But you already know how thoughtful he is. (See “The art of wooing is not dead.”) The other day he told me he’d been shopping…
Where the boys (men) are
In Connie Francis’ song “Where The Boys Are,” she pines for her yet unmet love: “Where the boys are, someone waits for me A smilin’ face, a warm embrace, two arms to hold me tenderly Where the boys are, my true love will be He’s walkin’ down some street in town and I know he’s…
Should you seek feedback on why it didn’t work out?
I’m sometimes asked why my multi-week relationships didn’t work out. If the guy released me, I don’t really know so can only guess. I’ve been asked, “What did the guy say when he broke up with you?” The truth is, most of them have just gone poof, even after seeing each other 5-7 weeks. Very…
Review of “I Love You, Let’s Meet”
I was introduced to I Love You, Let’s Meet through alert reader Elena who posted the link to the video in a comment. I thought the video humorously captured what happens far too often with online dating — you become enamored with someone through emails, IMs and phone calls. Then you meet, and nothing. No…
Is he crazy — or are you?
They fell quickly and hard. Within 2.5 weeks of meeting, they were exchanging I love yous. They spent every weekend together and most weekday nights. They were sure they’d found their soul mates. The sex was frequent and fantastic. Then something shifted. They started fighting frequently. She was often late to their assignations — sometimes…
Do men want feisty women?
I’ve recently become addicted to “Dancing with the Stars.” I know, I’m slow to join the onslaught of rabid fans. What pushed me over the top was Apolo Anton Ohno. What a luscious man! Although he’s only 24, one can still drool, yes? I got so enamored, I spent the evening watching this season’s previous…
Does he want a “mommy”?
Some midlife women complain that some men they’ve dated want someone to take care of them — a mommy. Of course, in a Oedipal twist, they also want her to perform in the bedroom, assuming he still can. Being a mother figure isn’t all bad if that is what you like. Many women like nurturing…
Are you too picky?
A friend chided me, “You’ve gone out with 75 men in 2 years. Why aren’t you married? Are you too picky?” When midlife women share that they haven’t found their “one” and they’re getting tired of looking, they begin to wonder if they are being too picky. The dilemma is, should you continue to be…