Soon after I began dating, I was hunting for date shoes in my favorite shoe store, DSW (Discount Shoe Warehouse). It is a cavernous store carrying thousands of varieties. One shoe per style and color sits atop a column of that style’s variously sized boxed shoes. As I slowly cruised each long aisle scrutinizing each…
Fantasizing while Jazzercizing
I Jazzercise twice a week. A few months ago the class began in the church right next door to me. As a lackadaisical exerciser, I figured this was God’s way of saying “You now have no viable excuse not to exercise.” Even with a morning yoga class a block away, I nearly always turn over…
Why men go “poof”
Vanish. Disappear. Do a David Copperfield. I’ve pondered this a lot, as it’s happened often. I’ve interviewed men friends. The following is what I’ve gleaned. If you don’t hear from a guy after one date, it’s clear he’s not interested. No problem, even though it’s classier to send a nice email stating such. But what…
He’s baaaaack!
This phrase may conjure up images of Arnold Schwarzenegger (“The Governator”) in “The Terminator 2.” The man I’m referring to has a few of Arnold’s characteristics — an easy smile, intelligence, humor, confidence — and nice biceps! Previously I wrote about “Boomerang boyfriends.” These are guys who get back in touch after months without contact….
“I could really see us together if you lost weight”
Most of us would be incensed hearing this. I wasn’t. A dear male pal, someone I’d dated briefly 18 months ago, told me this recently. We were having a heart to heart, honest talk about the ups and downs of dating and why I hadn’t found Mr. Right yet. About a month after our first…
Being “aggressively single”
My friend British professional speaker Graham Davies describes himself as “aggressively single.” He’s 44 and has a highly successful speaking business in Europe and the US. Friends tease me about the number of men I’ve gone out with in the last two years. Often they exclaim, “I haven’t dated that many people in my life!”…
Why do we date?
Common responses include: to have fun, romance, companionship, a family, sex, a “soft place to land,” affection, love, excitement, security, marriage, a life partner, to love and be loved, and eliminate loneliness. All good reasons. However, I think one of the most profound reasons is stated by Susan Sarandon‘s character Beverly Clark, in the American…
He had me from “You’re gorgeous!”
In “Jerry McGuire,” Renee Zellweger‘s character tells Jerry “You had me from ‘hello.’” Mine was a little different. We’d talked a few times on the phone and had nice, but brief, conversations. I wrote about him in “Putting your best voice forward.” I had no idea if I’d be attracted to him or him to…
“What’s your ring size?”
You’d think that this would be high on the list of a single woman’s most-desired questions. Unfortunately, for me it was not. We’d been dating for four months, although we saw each other only every 9-12 days. He called every day, but we hadn’t really spent much time together. I was fond of him, but…
“Any booty will do”
At my professional association’s conference, a long-single man I’ve known 10+ years stepped up his flirting with me. He’s significantly younger, shorter, and geographically undesirable, as well as other characteristics that make us not a good match, but we’re pals and dancing buddies. At one of the informal events, I was lying on my side…
Charm school for men?
Many times I have said that I should start a charm school for men. (And I know men who say they should do this for women.) The challenge is the ones who really need it wouldn’t register. My friend Ken Braly sent me an interesting article from yesterday’s San Francisco Chronicle. In “Charm school for…