My beau du jour is a vegetarian Buddhist who plays guitar professionally in two reggae bands. Additionally, he holds down a day job, and runs his own small business after hours. Needless to say, we have interesting conversations. Our first encounter was a hot chocolate date, since neither of us drink coffee. Over frothy cocoa…
Him or someone better
Do you know the prayer, “This or something better”? It is commonly used when you are awaiting some good news — a new job, new client, offer on a new home, college acceptance. Sometimes I’ve wished that it will work out with a new guy and he will be “the one.” He seems great in…
Sleepover do’s and don’ts
“Sleepover? For adults?” you may be asking. “What do you mean?” Two-person pajama party. Duo slumber party. Couple cuddle fest. Jammie jam. No-sex sleepover. It can happen early in the relationship. You’re not ready to have sex, so you only cuddle and snooze with your new sweetie all night. Sleepovers are living on the edge….
I’m glad dating is hard
I bet you’re thinking, “That’s an odd approach.” At first blush, it sounds incongruent. But let me explain. My dear friend, the late Art Berg, was one of the best motivational speakers in the world until his death at age 39 in 2002. He wrote several books, was named 1992 Young Entrepreneur of the Year…
Build a relationship bridge one strand at a time
When beginning to date someone you like, your shared experiences connect you together. You’re building a relationship bridge. Each experience creates small strands of the bridge’s supporting cables. The laughs, smiles, gentle touches, kisses, phone calls, emails, and kindnesses are spun into stronger cord. As time goes on, the cord is twisted into rope, then…
“I want to respect me in the morning”
You know the old ploy of a guy wanting you to sleep with him. He says, “I’ll respect you in the morning.” But what about you? Will you respect you in the morning if you allow yourself to be seduced? A while ago, a man I’d dated a few times tried to get me to…
Cultivate and appreciate your band of brothers
“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.”—Richard Bach, Messiah’s Handbook I have a gaggle of guys who are like brothers. You probably have some male friends like that, too….
Being present to the presents
My nearly divorced 48-year-old neighbor said she was inspired by my philosophy expressed in this blog. She asked how I could still be positive and upbeat after going out with 68 men, none of whom was “the one.” I told her my philosophy is “never a wasted evening.” In my dating journey, I’ve met some…
A face perfect for radio
I’m sure you’ve heard that old insult. Well, after seeing myself on the Greg Behrendt Show the other day, I feel I have a face perfect for radio. Or newspaper. Perhaps telegraph. Just not TV. Before the show Hollywood makeup and hair artists worked their magic on me. Still the sags and bags were pronounced….
Knight and day
How many women have said they want a “knight in shining armor”? Well, I found one. Literally. His after-work life involves teaching historical swordplay and leather craft. He often gives dueling demonstrations at Renaissance faires. He introduced himself by email the other day. (I wonder if it’s hard to type while wearing metal gloves. Maybe…
Dating is like a box of chocolates
With apologies to Forrest Gump’s momma (and author Winston Groom), dating is like a box of chocolates. And the rest of the quote is correct too, “You never know what you’re gonna get.” I’ve written about how dating is like Baskin-Robbins, house hunting, plant care and shopping, and men are like shoes. And I have…