Playgirl glory

It took five months of occasional email exchanges to finally meet. It was worth the wait.

Why so long? He had been traveling the world for a non-profit project he founded. He was in the States infrequently during the past year, and even more rarely at his home in my area.

As part of getting to know each other, he sent me a link to his project’s Web site where I learned more about him. Armed with his unique full name, it was easy to Google him.

PlaygirlThrough this sleuthing I uncovered that he had been not only a Marine fighter pilot — but also a Playgirl “Real Man of the Month!” Granted, that was nearly three decades ago. During our first phone conversation, I commented on his Web page. He said laughingly, “If you get me drunk enough I’ll tell you some stories that I couldn’t put on the page.”

“Will that include the Playgirl story?” I asked playfully.

A loud laugh erupted. “How’d you find that?” I told him Google was generous. I added that I’d like to see a copy. He said, “Don’t bother buying one of those old issues. The staple hid my glory.” Now it was my turn to burst into laughter.

He was intelligent, humble, funny, educated, accomplished, passionate about his project, interested in me, and a good listener. We set a coffee date for the next day. He arrived smartly dressed and greeted me with a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. The 90 minutes passed quickly until he had to leave for another commitment. He said he’d like to see me again. He called 30 minutes after we separated to say how much he enjoyed our time together and was looking forward to the next time.

Will the Playgirl Marine activist work out? One never knows. But at the least it will be a fun adventure getting to know him.

BTW, to the coffee date I brought a staple remover. 🙂

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7 responses to “Playgirl glory”

  1. justme.jen Avatar

    LOL at the staple remover!
    He sounds fabulous – good luck in this new adventure! =)

  2. nysharon Avatar

    You have such a good sense of humor DG. This post made me think that I should try the on-line thing again and you know how I have felt about that in the past. It has been 3 months since a date and Friday night a cute 27 yr old hit on me (I am sure it wasn’t for a coffee date.) This was tempting but depressing too. Small town blues. I am firmly convinced that it is all a waste of my time, get a lap dog, and I will be forever be the woman that people keep saying to, “I can’t believe some guy hasn’t snapped you up yet.” Yes I am beaten, this usually positive attituded person. Sorry for being such a downer.

  3. Dating Goddess Avatar
    Dating Goddess

    Justme and NYSharon: Thanks!

    NYSharon: I find one goes though ups and downs. It’s good to take a break sometimes when you’re not feeling in the mood, as it does take energy, especially when you encounter folks like the professor mentioned this week, or the pathological liar. But then a Prince Considerate comes along and it is fun! So you just have to be in the mood to take what comes, and adjust your man sieve.

  4. Rodney Avatar

    Dont give up NYSharon, follow your instinct and try the online thing again. There’s still a few good fish out there 🙂

  5. Barbara Avatar

    Doesn’t anyone worry about –dare I say the word — disease? Or, doesn’t it matter anymore because everyone is infected with something?

  6. Dating Goddess Avatar

    Barbara: Absolutely take all precautions. Ideally, when you both decide you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level, both of you go to your doctors and get tested for all STDs. Then show each other the printed tests before proceeding. Don’t just tell the other the results — show them. This will stave off any future argument of “how do I know you were telling me the truth” when they’ve actually seen the document.

    Protect your health and if someone tries to pressure you to not, dump them as they are selfish and foolish.